Alyssa

Did you have a say in that matter?

No, he just did it.

He took his paycheck.

he opened up a separate account and he took it all away, which was, yeah.

Yeah.

But he recently just put his paycheck back into our joint account.

So now I'm on the finances.

Like I see it happening.

and um he really likes his autonomy with his own account and he wishes he always had his own soul account from the beginning he wishes we were never joined and then but we both agreed on me being a stay-at-home mom and taking care of the kids and whatever so yeah so i see he cares because if he didn't

care he wouldn't have put his paycheck back in the account he wouldn't have he wouldn't be calling and asking about my day and he wouldn't be doing therapy because he's going to therapy he's doing it on his own and we're doing our couples counseling as well what makes you most afraid that this won't work out not having the family unit that i thought we would have

That he will just be stuck in his head and his dark thoughts and thinking that I will always be like the old me.

The old me was very... It was my way...

we did what I wanted to do if he wanted to go out with friends like I would guilt him I wouldn't do it like maliciously but I would do it because that's just how I was raised I was guilted my whole life growing up so that's like what I know and then we had kids and then that really like I think threw a wrench in things and we we parent we are 100% parenting the way we want to parent

But our kids are high-functioning ADHD.

Our daughter is on the spectrum.

So they have a lot of extra needs.

And he doesn't see it.

He feels like I coddle them.

But I've worked on myself a lot.

Like, I've been going to therapy for the last two and a half years.