Amala Ekpunobi

You cut it down.

You chopped it up.

You said you didn't want to have any contact with her.

And now you're expecting her to come back and build the bridge that you broke down, which is really interesting.

Okay, so now you're reaching back out after going completely just cold turkey, no contact with your mother and now you're setting the parameters in which she's able to respond to you.

So now if you want to respond to me after I completely cut out our relationship, you can do so in this format.

And I do have to wonder, is this something that is just born out of her own brain?

Who is advising her to go down this path and with this particular way of going about it?

Because this is not how I would want to be reached out to by my future daughter.

Oh my gosh, if she goes no contact with me, that would be just absolutely devastating.

but to reach out and say, well, you can reach out to me only by email and we'll see how much we can unpack through that.

To me, it is ridiculous.

Now I'm reading some of the comments.

The top one reads, so you went no contact and now you decide to reach out.

She grieved your loss from her life and moved on.

Did you expect her to just be frozen in time, ready and waiting for you to waltz back into her life?

It's a good question.

I don't think we're thinking through completely going no contact with people, especially when they are family or people who are deeply significant in our lives.

It is a drastic measure to take.

And I think a measure that should only be taken if this person is truly harming you in a way that feels inescapable, especially if we're dealing with mothers, fathers, children.