Amanda Doyle

You just become smaller and smaller.

You just become smaller and smaller.

You just become smaller and smaller.

I think it was that thing that you're talking about of the, a good person and good woman seeks to empathize and seeks to understand the other perspective. And I love him. So I don't want to upset him. And so this is clearly upsetting to him. So whether or not I'm intending or actually doing this thing has very little to do with whether he's upset.

I think it was that thing that you're talking about of the, a good person and good woman seeks to empathize and seeks to understand the other perspective. And I love him. So I don't want to upset him. And so this is clearly upsetting to him. So whether or not I'm intending or actually doing this thing has very little to do with whether he's upset.

I think it was that thing that you're talking about of the, a good person and good woman seeks to empathize and seeks to understand the other perspective. And I love him. So I don't want to upset him. And so this is clearly upsetting to him. So whether or not I'm intending or actually doing this thing has very little to do with whether he's upset.

So I just need to change my behavior so that he doesn't get upset.

So I just need to change my behavior so that he doesn't get upset.

So I just need to change my behavior so that he doesn't get upset.

Can I ask you what the difference is between gaslighting and then two people who are in a relationship that just have a different perspective? I think part of the issue here is what seems like subtlety and like, oh, are we not allowed to have a different perspective or else we're deemed to be gaslighting? What is the hallmark of gaslighting that differentiates it from that?

Can I ask you what the difference is between gaslighting and then two people who are in a relationship that just have a different perspective? I think part of the issue here is what seems like subtlety and like, oh, are we not allowed to have a different perspective or else we're deemed to be gaslighting? What is the hallmark of gaslighting that differentiates it from that?

Can I ask you what the difference is between gaslighting and then two people who are in a relationship that just have a different perspective? I think part of the issue here is what seems like subtlety and like, oh, are we not allowed to have a different perspective or else we're deemed to be gaslighting? What is the hallmark of gaslighting that differentiates it from that?

I think of it like a tug of war where the gaslighter is pulling on this side and saying, you're ridiculous. That doesn't make sense. You never make sense. You're paranoid. And if you are pulling saying, no, I'm not here. Let me prove it to you. I'm not. Let me show you. Then that is what keeps the connection there. Whereas if the gaslightee was just like,

I think of it like a tug of war where the gaslighter is pulling on this side and saying, you're ridiculous. That doesn't make sense. You never make sense. You're paranoid. And if you are pulling saying, no, I'm not here. Let me prove it to you. I'm not. Let me show you. Then that is what keeps the connection there. Whereas if the gaslightee was just like,

I think of it like a tug of war where the gaslighter is pulling on this side and saying, you're ridiculous. That doesn't make sense. You never make sense. You're paranoid. And if you are pulling saying, no, I'm not here. Let me prove it to you. I'm not. Let me show you. Then that is what keeps the connection there. Whereas if the gaslightee was just like,

you're nuts, I don't know what you're talking about, and let go, there would be no more connection there. There would be no more of the thing that the gaslighter needs, which is to keep you hanging on, to keep you pulling.

you're nuts, I don't know what you're talking about, and let go, there would be no more connection there. There would be no more of the thing that the gaslighter needs, which is to keep you hanging on, to keep you pulling.

you're nuts, I don't know what you're talking about, and let go, there would be no more connection there. There would be no more of the thing that the gaslighter needs, which is to keep you hanging on, to keep you pulling.

And often you think you're devoted to the person, but you're actually more devoted in the relationship to the perception of yourself as good and sane.

And often you think you're devoted to the person, but you're actually more devoted in the relationship to the perception of yourself as good and sane.