Amanda

I know who you are because you mentioned me and then like 40 people texted me immediately. People were like, holy shit. So anyway, thanks.

Pleasure to meet you.

Pleasure to meet you.

Pleasure to meet you.

I'm so excited.

I'm so excited.

I'm so excited.

Well, what it is, is when you are overly invested in the feeling states, the outcomes, the situations, the relationships, circumstances, finances, I mean, we could keep going, of the people in your life to the detriment of your own internal peace. So we have to really look at that distinction because we're all mothers and lovers and sisters and daughters.

Well, what it is, is when you are overly invested in the feeling states, the outcomes, the situations, the relationships, circumstances, finances, I mean, we could keep going, of the people in your life to the detriment of your own internal peace. So we have to really look at that distinction because we're all mothers and lovers and sisters and daughters.

Well, what it is, is when you are overly invested in the feeling states, the outcomes, the situations, the relationships, circumstances, finances, I mean, we could keep going, of the people in your life to the detriment of your own internal peace. So we have to really look at that distinction because we're all mothers and lovers and sisters and daughters.

And obviously we want the people in our life that we love to be happy. We want all people to be happy. But when you are high functioning, codependent, it's more than that. So now it moves over into actually feeling responsible for those things. And it's not good for you or your relationships, as we all know.

And obviously we want the people in our life that we love to be happy. We want all people to be happy. But when you are high functioning, codependent, it's more than that. So now it moves over into actually feeling responsible for those things. And it's not good for you or your relationships, as we all know.

And obviously we want the people in our life that we love to be happy. We want all people to be happy. But when you are high functioning, codependent, it's more than that. So now it moves over into actually feeling responsible for those things. And it's not good for you or your relationships, as we all know.

All right. So this is a story about what I deemed auto-accommodating. So I was in a busy, my hair salon in New York City and it was Saturday. I don't usually go because it's so slammed, but I'm laying in the bowl, right? And I've got something on my hair. I'm going to be there for 30 minutes and it's busy. And now there's somebody online and now there's another person online.

All right. So this is a story about what I deemed auto-accommodating. So I was in a busy, my hair salon in New York City and it was Saturday. I don't usually go because it's so slammed, but I'm laying in the bowl, right? And I've got something on my hair. I'm going to be there for 30 minutes and it's busy. And now there's somebody online and now there's another person online.

All right. So this is a story about what I deemed auto-accommodating. So I was in a busy, my hair salon in New York City and it was Saturday. I don't usually go because it's so slammed, but I'm laying in the bowl, right? And I've got something on my hair. I'm going to be there for 30 minutes and it's busy. And now there's somebody online and now there's another person online.

And the more people who are waiting in their little robes for a sink, the more stressed out I became. I was like, I don't need a sink. I could be sitting anywhere. I should tell them that, you know. So I can't. I finally get to the tipping point where I can't not say anything. So I raised my hand and I called the girl over and I was like, you know, I could move.

And the more people who are waiting in their little robes for a sink, the more stressed out I became. I was like, I don't need a sink. I could be sitting anywhere. I should tell them that, you know. So I can't. I finally get to the tipping point where I can't not say anything. So I raised my hand and I called the girl over and I was like, you know, I could move.

And the more people who are waiting in their little robes for a sink, the more stressed out I became. I was like, I don't need a sink. I could be sitting anywhere. I should tell them that, you know. So I can't. I finally get to the tipping point where I can't not say anything. So I raised my hand and I called the girl over and I was like, you know, I could move.

Like, I don't need to take up a sink. And she's like, yeah, lady. We do this every Saturday. Like. We're okay. We got it. You're good. And what I realized in that moment, so I was like, what else could you have been doing, Tara? Instead of sweating some shit that is nowhere near your side of the street, this is someone else's side of the street running the sink flow at the salon, not you.