Amanda

Like, I don't need to take up a sink. And she's like, yeah, lady. We do this every Saturday. Like. We're okay. We got it. You're good. And what I realized in that moment, so I was like, what else could you have been doing, Tara? Instead of sweating some shit that is nowhere near your side of the street, this is someone else's side of the street running the sink flow at the salon, not you.

Like, I don't need to take up a sink. And she's like, yeah, lady. We do this every Saturday. Like. We're okay. We got it. You're good. And what I realized in that moment, so I was like, what else could you have been doing, Tara? Instead of sweating some shit that is nowhere near your side of the street, this is someone else's side of the street running the sink flow at the salon, not you.

But the cost, like why do we even care, right? That's one example of what I could have been doing. I could have called my mother. I could have been meditating. I could have been listening to your podcast. I could have been doing a million other more valuable things. than trying to control something that was not mine to control. And after that, I actually did a quick video on that that went viral.

But the cost, like why do we even care, right? That's one example of what I could have been doing. I could have called my mother. I could have been meditating. I could have been listening to your podcast. I could have been doing a million other more valuable things. than trying to control something that was not mine to control. And after that, I actually did a quick video on that that went viral.

But the cost, like why do we even care, right? That's one example of what I could have been doing. I could have called my mother. I could have been meditating. I could have been listening to your podcast. I could have been doing a million other more valuable things. than trying to control something that was not mine to control. And after that, I actually did a quick video on that that went viral.

And people were like, oh my God, me everywhere. Like so many people felt identified with that experience. So I call that auto-accommodating. Yeah.

And people were like, oh my God, me everywhere. Like so many people felt identified with that experience. So I call that auto-accommodating. Yeah.

And people were like, oh my God, me everywhere. Like so many people felt identified with that experience. So I call that auto-accommodating. Yeah.

I'm worried that the people online are frustrated and mad at me because I'm hogging up a sink that I don't need. They can obviously see no one's doing anything to my hair. So what's actually happening is I don't want the people online to feel frustrated at me, get mad at the nice assistant. I don't want anyone to be in trouble. I don't want there to be a conflict. I don't want any problem.

I'm worried that the people online are frustrated and mad at me because I'm hogging up a sink that I don't need. They can obviously see no one's doing anything to my hair. So what's actually happening is I don't want the people online to feel frustrated at me, get mad at the nice assistant. I don't want anyone to be in trouble. I don't want there to be a conflict. I don't want any problem.

I'm worried that the people online are frustrated and mad at me because I'm hogging up a sink that I don't need. They can obviously see no one's doing anything to my hair. So what's actually happening is I don't want the people online to feel frustrated at me, get mad at the nice assistant. I don't want anyone to be in trouble. I don't want there to be a conflict. I don't want any problem.

I just want peace. Can we just have peace? And I think that if I make a move to move myself, right, because I'm the all-knowing and I am the solution to all problems, FYI, when I'm an HFC, right, that I'm just going to fix it by telling the girl I'm going to move and it's all going to be great. Now, obviously that's not great because what really is happening in there?

I just want peace. Can we just have peace? And I think that if I make a move to move myself, right, because I'm the all-knowing and I am the solution to all problems, FYI, when I'm an HFC, right, that I'm just going to fix it by telling the girl I'm going to move and it's all going to be great. Now, obviously that's not great because what really is happening in there?

I just want peace. Can we just have peace? And I think that if I make a move to move myself, right, because I'm the all-knowing and I am the solution to all problems, FYI, when I'm an HFC, right, that I'm just going to fix it by telling the girl I'm going to move and it's all going to be great. Now, obviously that's not great because what really is happening in there?

I'm making assumptions about what needs to happen with the sink flow that's done in my business. I'm calling over an assistant who's busy doing something else to tell her that I think I have a better plan for the sink flow than what they got going on. I think you're asleep, little girl, at the wheel. So I'm just, you're not doing the right thing.

I'm making assumptions about what needs to happen with the sink flow that's done in my business. I'm calling over an assistant who's busy doing something else to tell her that I think I have a better plan for the sink flow than what they got going on. I think you're asleep, little girl, at the wheel. So I'm just, you're not doing the right thing.

I'm making assumptions about what needs to happen with the sink flow that's done in my business. I'm calling over an assistant who's busy doing something else to tell her that I think I have a better plan for the sink flow than what they got going on. I think you're asleep, little girl, at the wheel. So I'm just, you're not doing the right thing.

So I'm going to step in and get it figured out for you. That's... what it could look like. I don't know. She didn't seem like she cared at all. She was just like, yeah, we're good. Bye. So she didn't do anything, but how much time do we spend in our lives trying to control things that are legitimately not on our side of the street?

So I'm going to step in and get it figured out for you. That's... what it could look like. I don't know. She didn't seem like she cared at all. She was just like, yeah, we're good. Bye. So she didn't do anything, but how much time do we spend in our lives trying to control things that are legitimately not on our side of the street?

So I'm going to step in and get it figured out for you. That's... what it could look like. I don't know. She didn't seem like she cared at all. She was just like, yeah, we're good. Bye. So she didn't do anything, but how much time do we spend in our lives trying to control things that are legitimately not on our side of the street?