Amanda

And when people say, maybe you're just nice, Terry, or maybe I'm just being nice. Like all HFCs want to defend their behavior so badly. They can't wait to tell me that they're just good people. Hello. And I say, That may be true. I do believe you are good people. And if you can't not do it, that is a compulsion.

And when people say, maybe you're just nice, Terry, or maybe I'm just being nice. Like all HFCs want to defend their behavior so badly. They can't wait to tell me that they're just good people. Hello. And I say, That may be true. I do believe you are good people. And if you can't not do it, that is a compulsion.

And when people say, maybe you're just nice, Terry, or maybe I'm just being nice. Like all HFCs want to defend their behavior so badly. They can't wait to tell me that they're just good people. Hello. And I say, That may be true. I do believe you are good people. And if you can't not do it, that is a compulsion.

Everyone's going to have a different driver, right? Because we all had different familial experiences, right? I hate to say we've got to go back to the scene of the crime. Oh, God, Terry, again? We do. My poor parents. My mother just stopped listening. But the reality is that's where these seeds are planted. So to get back to Abby's question, your question was, why? Why do I feel that way?

Everyone's going to have a different driver, right? Because we all had different familial experiences, right? I hate to say we've got to go back to the scene of the crime. Oh, God, Terry, again? We do. My poor parents. My mother just stopped listening. But the reality is that's where these seeds are planted. So to get back to Abby's question, your question was, why? Why do I feel that way?

Everyone's going to have a different driver, right? Because we all had different familial experiences, right? I hate to say we've got to go back to the scene of the crime. Oh, God, Terry, again? We do. My poor parents. My mother just stopped listening. But the reality is that's where these seeds are planted. So to get back to Abby's question, your question was, why? Why do I feel that way?

Why do I feel compelled? Well- Let's look at family systems. Let's look at your downloaded HFC or relational blueprint. This is all unconscious stuff. It's a paradigm already in your unconscious mind of what is the right thing to do? How are relationships? How am I supposed to behave? How do I behave in public? How do I behave with other people? Then mix in, you're an empath, right?

Why do I feel compelled? Well- Let's look at family systems. Let's look at your downloaded HFC or relational blueprint. This is all unconscious stuff. It's a paradigm already in your unconscious mind of what is the right thing to do? How are relationships? How am I supposed to behave? How do I behave in public? How do I behave with other people? Then mix in, you're an empath, right?

Why do I feel compelled? Well- Let's look at family systems. Let's look at your downloaded HFC or relational blueprint. This is all unconscious stuff. It's a paradigm already in your unconscious mind of what is the right thing to do? How are relationships? How am I supposed to behave? How do I behave in public? How do I behave with other people? Then mix in, you're an empath, right?

So if you're feeling all the feelings, right? HFCs. Most of us, if you're active. Now, I'm in recovery, but I'm still a massive empath. So I still know the temperature of every person in every frigging room. And I still know what conversations are going awry, where I still want to dive in. And I just don't. It's just like drinking. I stopped drinking when I was 21.

So if you're feeling all the feelings, right? HFCs. Most of us, if you're active. Now, I'm in recovery, but I'm still a massive empath. So I still know the temperature of every person in every frigging room. And I still know what conversations are going awry, where I still want to dive in. And I just don't. It's just like drinking. I stopped drinking when I was 21.

So if you're feeling all the feelings, right? HFCs. Most of us, if you're active. Now, I'm in recovery, but I'm still a massive empath. So I still know the temperature of every person in every frigging room. And I still know what conversations are going awry, where I still want to dive in. And I just don't. It's just like drinking. I stopped drinking when I was 21.

It's not like I don't ever want to drink. I just don't. So when you're in recovery, you just... Slowly but surely, stop those over-functioning.

It's not like I don't ever want to drink. I just don't. So when you're in recovery, you just... Slowly but surely, stop those over-functioning.

It's not like I don't ever want to drink. I just don't. So when you're in recovery, you just... Slowly but surely, stop those over-functioning.

And they're really controlling because when you think about any kind of codependency, right, whether it's Melody Beatty codependent or more codependency, whether it's high-functioning codependency, at the core of these behaviors is an overt or covert attempt or desire to control other people's outcomes.

And they're really controlling because when you think about any kind of codependency, right, whether it's Melody Beatty codependent or more codependency, whether it's high-functioning codependency, at the core of these behaviors is an overt or covert attempt or desire to control other people's outcomes.

And they're really controlling because when you think about any kind of codependency, right, whether it's Melody Beatty codependent or more codependency, whether it's high-functioning codependency, at the core of these behaviors is an overt or covert attempt or desire to control other people's outcomes.

So anytime, like a little trick that you guys can use is anytime you think in your mind, oh, I don't want them to think. Or you say, oh, I don't want them to feel. Immediately just back your hiney up to your own side of the street because what they think and how they feel is their side of the street. And your side of the street is what you think and how you feel.

So anytime, like a little trick that you guys can use is anytime you think in your mind, oh, I don't want them to think. Or you say, oh, I don't want them to feel. Immediately just back your hiney up to your own side of the street because what they think and how they feel is their side of the street. And your side of the street is what you think and how you feel.