Amber Rosolero

Yeah.

We then got together, including the sneaking around before telling people.

She told me she doesn't want me traveling one-to-one with this manager at all.

I completely understand where she's coming from emotionally, but this is genuinely part of my job and saying no could make me look unprofessional or difficult at work.

I've reassured my wife repeatedly, but she stood firm that this crosses a boundary for her.

So my question is, am I wrong for thinking this boundary is unreasonable?

Should I accept it to keep the peace?

Or is it the kind of thing where trust needs to override discomfort?

How do I navigate respecting her feelings without jeopardising my career?

Please keep me in on from a fellow gay XXX.

No, I knew it was.

This is a tricky one because it is...

I think it's valid the way if you're if you're in agreement.

And I do think it's fair enough, like putting down that boundary based on previous experience.

Oh, no, sorry.

I think that... I know that, but that's a previous experience with that person that has set up that kind of insecurity.

It's, I think both sides are valid.

And so you maybe just need to try and figure out some compromise because you can't keep on saying no if this is going to be the situation you're not planning on leaving this job you're in at the moment.

You're going to have to have a discussion and try and figure out how you keep both one another happy.

It's a bit awkward.