Amelia Lester

It's actually even worse if they're going through something and if I'm going through something and I get the, how are you?

Haven't heard from you in six months.

Then that's not...

No, that's not nice either.

I think it's about calibrating your check-ins to a mutually agreed level.

So, for instance, if that friend who texted me about the underwire bras had texted me this morning, how are you?

Yes, you're right.

I don't have time to respond to this.

But to the underwire bras, I stopped everything.

I texted her like, yeah, we are doing underwire bras.

Sorry to inform you.

Yes.

Yeah, there's another example because on the subscriber that you're talking about, Mia asked me how I have any friends because I have moved around a lot.

And I said, I actually think that I have a lot of friends.

You're very good at it.

And one of my friends lives in California and we don't speak often.

I've never lived in California, but I was proud of my check in with her the other day.

I asked her how many times she'd exercised that week or how many Pilates classes she'd taken because she told me in a previous conversation she was feeling a bit down.

She wasn't getting to Pilates.

She wanted to get to Pilates more because it was making her feel better.