Amit Kumar

And so when you ask people how inconvenienced would somebody feel if you asked them to take a picture for you, how positive would they feel as a result of offering this helpful

for you.

They think that people are going to feel more inconvenience than they actually feel.

And in fact, they don't realize how positive the other person will feel as a result of sort of helping you out.

People are generally, they tend to be delighted to offer a helping hand.

It doesn't take very much effort.

It's an easy opportunity to do something nice for somebody else.

And people are happy to do this, but we don't always recognize that.

Yeah, we have these egocentric biases.

This is sort of the scientific term for these perspective-based asymmetries where we're thinking about things from our perspective.

But in these contexts, these are interpersonal exchanges.

They involve other people.

And so it really matters what's going on in the mind of another person, what their perspective is.

I'm not the first person to suggest that being kind to other people improves well-being.

And yet we have

tons of opportunities to be kind to other people that we don't take advantage of.

And I think it's interesting to think about why we don't act in ways that are likely to make us feel better.

And one of those, one of the explanations for why we sometimes

choose not to do those things that are going to make both us and someone else feel better is that we don't fully understand sort of the magnitude of the impact that we're having on another person.

Recipients feel they say things like a little good goes a long way.