Amy Muise

And we think about like two types of attachment insecurity.

So one is attachment avoidance.

So this would be someone who's uncomfortable with too much closeness, who really values- Me, me, me.

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Value independence and like intimacy in your relationship can sometimes feel smothering.

So that's the attachment avoidance.

And then another type of insecurity is the attachment anxiety.

So this is more of a fear of abandonment, really wanting reassurance from a partner and being worried about being rejected from a partner, having your partner not be there for you.

And both of these things, as you might imagine, can be linked with lower overall relationship satisfaction.

And these are not uncommon.

About 50 percent of the population would be at least somewhat high on one or both of these things.

Yeah, sure.

I mean, that's not an uncommon pairing, right?

Because some of the ways that you might find intimacy smothering would sort of be exactly what an anxious person, you know, might want, right?

They might want sort of more intimacy.

So it kind of confirms for you that, you know, relationships maybe involve a lot of intimacy that you're not totally comfortable with.

And then for her, it might kind of confirm that, you know, partners aren't always available for all the type of intimacy that you might want.

But in this study, we sort of try to talk about activities that you can do together that relate to your attachment styles and might be most helpful for your satisfaction.

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