Amy Perry
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71 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
Amy Perry’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I would remind her, you know, it's 20 minutes up the road in an ambulance driving bad out of hell. You know, we're not going to be that long. We can do this. We counted down the minutes together.
She described to me, and I listened to her speaking to somebody else and giving my contact information, and it being written down on a pink sticky note which was put on the front of her file that was being passed over. That if something happened to her during the surgery... that, like, her mom didn't know us, her family didn't know us, no one would know to call us.
Katie and I were fully prepared to be searching obituaries for the next four days if we didn't hear from her.
I am just standing in the shower, staring at the wall, scalding hot water, thinking, like, I'm two days in, and I have no idea what's coming.
So she would say things like, oh, like this pain is building in my stomach. I'm starting to feel pain in my belly. I'm feeling bloated. And then she would look down or reach down and she would see blood. And I would have to say, is there someone there? Is there someone you can speak to? Have they left you the call button? And she'd say, I don't want to press the call button.
And I'd say, girl, you've got to press the call button. Like, we don't have a choice right now. Press your call button. She'd go, okay, I pressed the call button. And then she would describe... A nurse coming and checking on her, lifting the sheets. And then basically she would say, my nurse looks concerned. Oh, my nurse is hitting the emergency button on the wall.
And so I thought, like, this girl's still bleeding. She's still having a hard time. And this is not over.
At this point, more than anything, I am exhausted. I am completely emotionally checked out. I am no longer taking care of myself.
She starts hinting to us that this no longer seems like necessarily a gynecological issue, but maybe something more is going on here. We have another emergency hospital transfer, and this time it's in a helicopter. So she tells me that she's being helicoptered from McMaster and Hamilton to Toronto General.
She says she's covering her mic when it's loud and so that I don't hear too much of what's going on. She makes a little quip about, oh, your pink sticky note's still on the front of the file, so everyone will know to contact you if they need to. And she tells me when she can see the CN Tower and...
She's using phrases like, I feel like I'm dying, it's so hard to live right now, I just want to give up. And all I can do is just encourage her to keep breathing and keep focusing on the environment she's in and know that she's getting somewhere where she's going to be safe.
She had told us that the blood clots were getting bigger, that one of them was weighed in at 5.7 pounds. She even explained how it ripped her as it came out. She would start sending us selfies, but they were all very close. So we couldn't necessarily see what was happening in the background. And the whole time she wore the same sports bra.
We had like a half a thought, like why isn't she wearing a hospital gown?
At some point, there was a more major surgery that needed to happen or something that we couldn't be there for. And she's getting more weak-sounding, and she says that she can hear doctors yelling at each other, and people are disagreeing with treatment. It feels tense on her end. And we are hysterical. I mean, we are both crying. And...
We just listened basically like at some point she's just stopped talking and all we could hear was her breathing on the phone and we kind of assumed maybe she had been put under but we weren't really sure and then the call was still going but it just goes quiet. And we were even, like, we were both on the call, not speaking, texting each other, going, how long until we hang up?
Like, once in a while, we're just saying, you know, we love you, Caitlin. If you can hear us, like, you're going to be okay. We'll talk to you when you wake up. Everything's going to be okay. Like, you're going to see another day.
And then she texted us that she was being diagnosed with stage 4a pelvic cancer.
She told us that it was specifically in her vagina, in her pelvis, and in her rectum. We asked what they said the next steps were going to be, if there was a prognosis with this information. She told us that the next steps included a vaginectomy, radiation, and palliative care. So at this point, we are under the understanding that at some point, she is going to die. Um...
She told us that they gave her brochures of the different palliative care options. We had real conversations about when is it okay to give up. And just die. And just die.
She was saying things like, we're all trauma bonded forever. I don't ever want to get rid of you. We're going to be in this together forever. We're never going to forget each other now. Also making it very clear that she was sorry that she was putting us through this. So she would say things like, I'm so sorry. You have to listen. Like, you don't have to stay here with me if you don't want to.
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