André Duqum

Yeah.

And I think knowing that has just given me so much liberty and like allowing my preferences to evolve, like allowing the past be the past and like moving into the present with just openness.

Like when you experience the impermanence of something that there will be a first and last time that we do anything in life.

It changes radically how we approach all of our relationships, our career, our family, and how we engage with them because as much as I love, you know, this conversation and meeting you, who knows what's going to happen to either of us the next moment, you know?

And that invites actually an immense presence and that brings so much more aliveness to life.

I think in a life that is inherently impermanent and uncertain to how things are gonna transpire externally, there is this awakening to the realization

that of like that backwards law, you know, of where we try to control things or want things to happen in a certain way.

And the more that we try to pursue it, it almost eludes us.

Like by holding our breath, we lose it, you know, and by trying to stay afloat, we can sink.

And so it's this interesting balance of like you spoke to with it,

In terms of our internal, characterological, emotional wounds and trauma and stuff, but then also in terms of trying to create in the world and build our career and create the life of our dreams and whatnot, there is this interesting balance of intention, of action, and then also finding the place that arises from that state of inaction, of stillness, and seeing that as a bedrock.

One quote on your Instagram post actually said, you don't find your ground by looking for stability.

You find your ground by relaxing into instability.

And so there's this interesting universal paradoxical framing that is really interesting to put into action in our life because it's a very unique philosophical exploration, but to actually live it is where liberation comes in.

Yeah.

This is one of those quotes where if I were to go back, I would add a little bit of context.

Maybe I did in the caption.

I forget.

But you don't find your ground by looking for stability.

You find your ground by relaxing into instability.