André Duqum

I think it's so important to

rewrite our thoughts around challenges being a bad thing you're like really shining light on how they're the most you could say spiritually dense like the most growth and possibility for transformation in those moments it's easy to be nice to strangers it's difficult in moments when you're triggered by a family member at thanksgiving to

to imbibe those virtues, so to speak.

One aspect that feels very predominant in the way that I see you and the way that I see the Shaolin Path also is this level of self-control.

Now, I'm curious for you just to share whatever comes to mind in regards to self-control.

And what is the balance?

What is the dance between

healthy regulation of thoughts and emotions so that you don't identify yourself as them and where it leans too much into or where it can be suppression of emotion what do you think what do you think about that thank you for mentioning this example it's the perfect one for me it's the perfect one for me so unconsciously and maybe without even knowing

So how do you, because people will give what seems like conflicting advice.

One says, feel all your feelings.

Some other might see a more stern, stoic individual saying, don't be swayed by the whims of your emotional state.

So what to do?

Surely there's a middle way.

Yes.

It feels like there is a big interplay in the way that you write also about these different dynamics, how it's important to have that stability within yourself and then also have the adaptability, the structure and the freedom.

And I feel like we have this programming that like freedom means you can do what you want, when you want, how you want, with who you want, as much as you want.

And one who goes down that path experiences a lot of lethargy and not an experience of freedom.

So I would love to get your perspective on how freedom is truly born through structure.

Okay.

No.