André Duqum

And recover, even if something ends up being really terrible.

Which happens.

That's life.

And I'm curious, in your year-in-review process, the more that you've done that, have you actually seen the needle moving forward of...

not worrying about those things that are outside of your control, like you made progress.

Yeah, much better.

So that is a coachable skill or a learnable skill, depending on how you do it.

And I say coachable and learnable because I view those things as slightly different.

Learnable is this self-improvement game, right?

Yeah.

And there's a lot to the self-improvement game, but the social component, surrounding yourself with the right peer group, people who call you on your bullshit when you're blowing little things out of proportion, people who remind you of the silver lining when you're focused on the dark side of things, people who point to the past for evidence that you have figured something else out before, or to say, hey, you're about to make the same mistake.

So I really try to, I don't try, I calendar and invest in time with those people.

And that's arguably the most important thing that I do at the beginning of each year.

But look, every day is the beginning of a new year.

So you don't have to wait for January 1st.

It's kind of an artificial constraint.

You don't need to do that.

But is looking forward to my calendar and basically once a quarter, let's just say, I have at least...

a long weekend going up to a week where i spend time with those people and you can read you can study you can meditate you can do all those things or you can just surround yourselves by the people who embody or naturally do things think things believe things that you want to absorb it tends to be i think a little bit easier yeah if you just steep yourself in it

There's kind of like a shallow level of approval that is easily transmitted and easily like visible to others.