André Duqum

It invites the perspective to truly know and reflect on the reason why you're leaving a relationship. And if it's simply because a lack of willingness to look at your own stuff, then it's just going to show up in the next dynamic.

It invites the perspective to truly know and reflect on the reason why you're leaving a relationship. And if it's simply because a lack of willingness to look at your own stuff, then it's just going to show up in the next dynamic.

But then there's, I guess, fundamental misalignment and you believe people can just genuinely just grow in different directions.

But then there's, I guess, fundamental misalignment and you believe people can just genuinely just grow in different directions.

But then there's, I guess, fundamental misalignment and you believe people can just genuinely just grow in different directions.

Yeah, I think there's part of us that almost expects or hopes that our partner is not going to change from who we met. And it feels like the biggest illusion because that's the only thing we ever do.

Yeah, I think there's part of us that almost expects or hopes that our partner is not going to change from who we met. And it feels like the biggest illusion because that's the only thing we ever do.

Yeah, I think there's part of us that almost expects or hopes that our partner is not going to change from who we met. And it feels like the biggest illusion because that's the only thing we ever do.

I think in discerning between how long one stays in a relationship, whether they want to embark on that journey with somebody, we can have this over-romanticization of potential. And that's great to hold the potential of who somebody can be, but almost the expectation of it is what sucks the energy from the dynamic versus admitting the current patterns that somebody has.

I think in discerning between how long one stays in a relationship, whether they want to embark on that journey with somebody, we can have this over-romanticization of potential. And that's great to hold the potential of who somebody can be, but almost the expectation of it is what sucks the energy from the dynamic versus admitting the current patterns that somebody has.

I think in discerning between how long one stays in a relationship, whether they want to embark on that journey with somebody, we can have this over-romanticization of potential. And that's great to hold the potential of who somebody can be, but almost the expectation of it is what sucks the energy from the dynamic versus admitting the current patterns that somebody has.

And of course, if somebody's willing to grow, like if somebody has willingness to change and grow and like that is a core value and pillar between both of you, then that is probably one of the most important things. But what do you think about, yeah, that falling in love with potential over the pattern?

And of course, if somebody's willing to grow, like if somebody has willingness to change and grow and like that is a core value and pillar between both of you, then that is probably one of the most important things. But what do you think about, yeah, that falling in love with potential over the pattern?

And of course, if somebody's willing to grow, like if somebody has willingness to change and grow and like that is a core value and pillar between both of you, then that is probably one of the most important things. But what do you think about, yeah, that falling in love with potential over the pattern?

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Facts. Yeah, that's good. That's good stuff. Yeah, I think it's just such an insidious like thing too, because we don't realize we're doing it. Oftentimes, like we don't see how we're getting into a dynamic with the hope of what something might be, you know, and I feel like it's natural. And it's, it's become normalized to to try to have a savior complex or wanted to fix somebody.

Facts. Yeah, that's good. That's good stuff. Yeah, I think it's just such an insidious like thing too, because we don't realize we're doing it. Oftentimes, like we don't see how we're getting into a dynamic with the hope of what something might be, you know, and I feel like it's natural. And it's, it's become normalized to to try to have a savior complex or wanted to fix somebody.

Facts. Yeah, that's good. That's good stuff. Yeah, I think it's just such an insidious like thing too, because we don't realize we're doing it. Oftentimes, like we don't see how we're getting into a dynamic with the hope of what something might be, you know, and I feel like it's natural. And it's, it's become normalized to to try to have a savior complex or wanted to fix somebody.