André Duqum

But the key you're looking at, the key insight is what I really want, right?

What we all really want is to be happy right now, to be at peace right now.

We don't actually want a future happiness.

The only reason we keep chasing happiness in the future is because we don't think we can have it now.

I can only get it when I get that outcome.

So we chase, chase, chase.

We're on the hamster wheel.

But if we actually got serious about what do I really, if I could just press a button and have whatever I want, we would all press the button that says a perfectly happy, harmonious state of being, right?

That's what we all want.

And if you got the car or the girl or the guy or the house and it made you depressed, you get rid of it.

So it isn't really the attachment you want.

It's the state of being you want.

So detachment is like this recognition of,

Oh yeah, I want to be happy now, not in the future.

And I can't be happy now while I keep my mind in a contracted state, a tunnel vision focus on one desire I think I need.

Peace of mind is the absence of striving, is the absence of attachment.

And so I just want to be fully in acceptance at peace with this present moment.

And so again, to requalify that, you've got to come to the realization I just described organically.

It can't just be a thing you repeat as if it has magical power.

You really have to see this for yourself.