Andrew East

was anytime they'd get in an argument, they'd almost remind each other that we know how this ends and that's with us still married.

And so I think that's been a helpful kind of North Star guiding concept of like, hey, we're on the same team and this is going to be to our benefit.

We just have to figure out how to get there.

one communication pattern that I had to unlearn was my dad was a like would he love he was a dreamer and he loved doing any opportunity that he can get his hands on but he wouldn't necessarily communicate at all to my mom so he would just like go do his he would go do his thing and then it would be like ask for forgiveness not permission situation which you know Sean reminded me that I need to do a better job at that even last week

So it's more of the considering on the front end and like saying, hey, what do you think about this?

Was just not something that I had too many reps at when we were younger.

So what do check-ins look like week to week?

So this has been huge for me because I think I get really, I take things personal and like she can hurt my feelings if she gives me some type of feedback or is trying to hold me accountable to one of these goals.

But what we've done and what the goal setting system has helped us do is like, it's almost having a third party in the room.

It's like this neutral third party.

Objective.

Yeah.

And so when Sean gives me feedback, it is...

it's more referring to this third party and not referring directly to me.

It's like, hey, remember when we did this and you, it's here on the paper that we wanted to go on 52 date nights a year.

And we haven't gone on one in like the last three weeks.

And it's like, as opposed to me getting defensive and saying, well, it's because of whatever excuse.

It's more like, oh yeah, you're right.

That like, we are dropping the ball on that.

But the check-ins also help with, with,