Andrew East

At the very least, I want to do that same thing for my marriage because it's like a display of effort to some capacity.

And I know that if I don't have those structures or systems in place, I resort to...

being immature and irresponsible with my free time.

I'll jump on my phone, I'll turn on Netflix, I'm scrolling.

And then you're like, fast forward five years, you're like, wait, I missed the whole point.

I missed it all.

There was a point in my life after I finished playing football, it's hard to transition out of athletics because it's so intense and there's such an infrastructure, like Sean was saying, of coaches and nutritionists and your workout plan, your diet, your friend group, all of it is in this like really intense orbit of athletics and you leave it and you're like,

I don't have anybody to hang out with.

I don't have to do with my time.

And in that weird phase, after I was done playing, I realized that I was really struggling, not because I had chosen anything wrong.

It was just because I wasn't making a choice at all.

And I needed to do something.

I needed to take the next step.

But I was so paralyzed by...

trying to analyze which choice is the best when really there was a ton of good choices and it was up to me to like make one good choice, the great choice.

And all I needed to do was like go with one and walk down that path.

And so we're definitely not writing this book as experts.

Like Sean said, it's more of an, you know, we're students along with the readers and it was really fun to kind of revisit some of the stories in our life where we had done this well and done it poorly and,

But I, it's so easy, especially, you know, in any life transition to get excited by the new thing or the better thing.

And I would love for the takeaway from this book to be that like, hey,