Andrew Huberman

This is really like they're reported as a good or bad kisser.

They're reported as they pay or they don't pay.

And so I think the room to explore ambiguity

And to them, this is what I hear, feels very dangerous.

It feels like a slippery slope where they have to perform perfectly on every measure.

And I'm sure women feel the same way, right?

I just hear from more men.

You said that suppressing emotion is cognitively draining.

Did I also understand correctly that being in constant arousal through different emotions is also cognitively draining?

You mentioned distress tolerance is a valuable skill to have.

It feels appropriate to say, okay, distress tolerance, I totally agree.

Great to be able to tolerate distress to a point, but

that sounds like it's very cognitively and generally draining.

So how would you encourage someone to develop healthy levels of distress tolerance, but if that involves constant suppression of an impulse to shout, to react, that sounds like it could get very unhealthy.

So I realize we're sort of staying on this tangent, but I feel like what defines healthy distress tolerance if pushing back an emotional reaction or pushing down an emotional reaction is not good for us?

Recognizing that you feel your feelings.

What if somebody feels extremely angry and they want to feel their feelings?

What is a healthy way for them to do that?

What is the information and motivation that it's signaling?

Yeah, and then what is it telling me to do?