André Duqum

It's like, duh, that's not a novel concept.

But it's important to understand what detachment is.

Detachment is not the losing of something you want, right?

It's not the giving up of something you want.

Detachment is the relaxing of a contracted mental state.

And so the sort of phrase or idea given in the book for the second belief in outcome happiness is to repeat this outcome, like whatever it is you've identified you want, you're chasing, this outcome cannot give me anything I want.

And you're sort of denouncing the attachment as being fruitless for you.

And the ego will resist and say, no, of course it has what I want.

But the key you're looking at, the key insight is what I really want, right?

What we all really want is to be happy right now, to be at peace right now.

We don't actually want a future happiness.

The only reason we keep chasing happiness in the future is because we don't think we can have it now.

I can only get it when I get that outcome.

So we chase, chase, chase.

We're on the hamster wheel.

But if we actually got serious about what do I really, if I could just press a button and have whatever I want, we would all press the button that says a perfectly happy, harmonious state of being, right?

That's what we all want.

And if you got the car or the girl or the guy or the house and it made you depressed, you get rid of it.

So it isn't really the attachment you want.

It's the state of being you want.