André Duqum

And I'm curious for you to walk us through the journey of starting to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and then what it actually looks like over years to develop that relationship with yourself.

And I'm curious for you to walk us through the journey of starting to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and then what it actually looks like over years to develop that relationship with yourself.

Right, because if we don't have a degree of self-acceptance when meeting somebody, then we're in many ways attracting somebody through the lens of our own inadequacy, which then, of course, if both people are willing to grow, that can be a container for moving past that.

Right, because if we don't have a degree of self-acceptance when meeting somebody, then we're in many ways attracting somebody through the lens of our own inadequacy, which then, of course, if both people are willing to grow, that can be a container for moving past that.

Right, because if we don't have a degree of self-acceptance when meeting somebody, then we're in many ways attracting somebody through the lens of our own inadequacy, which then, of course, if both people are willing to grow, that can be a container for moving past that.

But if you're also meeting somebody who is seeking that and there is that kind of shadow or trauma bonding or whatever that looks like.

But if you're also meeting somebody who is seeking that and there is that kind of shadow or trauma bonding or whatever that looks like.

But if you're also meeting somebody who is seeking that and there is that kind of shadow or trauma bonding or whatever that looks like.

Mm-hmm. Yeah, I've seen that for sure. Also, just like in the culture, I feel like I grew up in my parents, parents, friends, where that's just sort of normalized in certain dynamics. And we get very safe and comfortable in that dynamic. And yeah, it takes real courage to break those chains of generational, you know, cultural conditioning.

Mm-hmm. Yeah, I've seen that for sure. Also, just like in the culture, I feel like I grew up in my parents, parents, friends, where that's just sort of normalized in certain dynamics. And we get very safe and comfortable in that dynamic. And yeah, it takes real courage to break those chains of generational, you know, cultural conditioning.

Mm-hmm. Yeah, I've seen that for sure. Also, just like in the culture, I feel like I grew up in my parents, parents, friends, where that's just sort of normalized in certain dynamics. And we get very safe and comfortable in that dynamic. And yeah, it takes real courage to break those chains of generational, you know, cultural conditioning.

Hey guys, speaking of relationships, this episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. I feel like we always hear about red flags in relationships, but what about green flags? Challenges in relationships are inevitable, and if choosing a life partner is one of the most important decisions we're ever gonna make, which I definitely feel like it is,

Hey guys, speaking of relationships, this episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. I feel like we always hear about red flags in relationships, but what about green flags? Challenges in relationships are inevitable, and if choosing a life partner is one of the most important decisions we're ever gonna make, which I definitely feel like it is,

Hey guys, speaking of relationships, this episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. I feel like we always hear about red flags in relationships, but what about green flags? Challenges in relationships are inevitable, and if choosing a life partner is one of the most important decisions we're ever gonna make, which I definitely feel like it is,

then taking the time to reflect on the values and qualities that truly matter is essential. Not to just avoid conflict, but to build a partnership where you work as a team to navigate whatever comes your way. For me, a few of my biggest values and green flags are self-awareness, personal responsibility, and play.

then taking the time to reflect on the values and qualities that truly matter is essential. Not to just avoid conflict, but to build a partnership where you work as a team to navigate whatever comes your way. For me, a few of my biggest values and green flags are self-awareness, personal responsibility, and play.

then taking the time to reflect on the values and qualities that truly matter is essential. Not to just avoid conflict, but to build a partnership where you work as a team to navigate whatever comes your way. For me, a few of my biggest values and green flags are self-awareness, personal responsibility, and play.

Maybe for you, it's someone's ability to truly listen, their sense of adventure or their nurturing presence. Just as important as knowing what we're looking for though, is doing the inner work to become a vibratory match for the love we want to attract in the first place. And therapy can be a massive support in that process of healing. developing clarity, and refining our values in life.

Maybe for you, it's someone's ability to truly listen, their sense of adventure or their nurturing presence. Just as important as knowing what we're looking for though, is doing the inner work to become a vibratory match for the love we want to attract in the first place. And therapy can be a massive support in that process of healing. developing clarity, and refining our values in life.

Maybe for you, it's someone's ability to truly listen, their sense of adventure or their nurturing presence. Just as important as knowing what we're looking for though, is doing the inner work to become a vibratory match for the love we want to attract in the first place. And therapy can be a massive support in that process of healing. developing clarity, and refining our values in life.