André Duqum

How do you clarify the signal of what you actually want and not what somebody else's scripts of what they want for your life?

There's three things that come up.

Like one, how can we safeguard ourselves from the continual stimulus of...

everyone's highlight reel, so we're continuing to program ourself and subconsciously when we see somebody's life that's in this, that's being rewarded societally and everybody seems to admire and have adoration for,

There's like a pull into that, right?

That's the mimetic desire that's pulling us into that and that imitation.

So like, I'm curious your thoughts on how we can one, safeguard from that.

But then two, like, how do you really clarify the signal of what it is that you want to do, your desire, your intention?

Of course, that's not fully in a vacuum of no influences.

That's not realistic either, but is like really true and aligned to your nature and what you want.

Well said.

I think this goes also nicely with your work within Distractible because that level of information I think is really important, both from the technology standpoint, but more so the internal emotional triggers that are more at the root cause.

when you go on that process, you know when to quit, you're clarifying what it is that you truly want, then there's this knowing and doing gap, right?

You like know kind of what you should do, but you fail to execute, you fail to have the consistency and what some people feel is like the discipline and willpower, but you have a great frame on how to actually close that gap.

So could you set the stage for a bit of that work?

Because I think it tail ends this conversation quite nicely.

What is it then, those emotional triggers, what is the origin in your perspective of that discomfort?

I'm not a slave to these sensations.

So each of us individually has her own go-to coping mechanism.

Everybody knows the person that pulls the phone out at the party because there's anxiety, right?