Andy Stumpf

And make sure that you are in a good place so you can talk about this from the place of being the person that you want to be, not emotionally falling apart.

And I'm not saying it's bad for your children to see emotions.

But what they really need right now in a tumultuous situation like this is hopefully two parents, whether or not those two parents can get along, that are as stable and rock solid as possible.

And I think there's actually only one thing that you can say to your kids that is hopefully for you and your wife slash potentially future ex-wife that is true.

And that's this.

Regardless of what happens in the relationship between the parents, each of those parents individually will always be there for the kids.

Now, maybe you are unsure of your ability to do that, and maybe you have no idea if your future ex even wants to.

So let's carve the future ex out of this because you can only control yourself.

Maybe you are unsure as to the way forward.

Am I going to be able to provide?

Is this going to have to change everything about my life?

And I am going to have to work my ass off and take every job and miss time with my kids and all of these things to provide for them.

The answer to that question is who knows, depending on your situation and maybe, but your kids don't need to hear that.

They need to hear that.

that regardless of what happens in their life going forward, as you're working your way through this, that you are going to be there for them, that you are going to be there with them.

And then more importantly than all of that, you need to live up to that.

Now, I understand that there are situations, maybe you're the sole breadwinner,

Maybe you're not.

Maybe you travel for work.

Maybe you work remotely.