Andy Stumpf

I am not sure.

There may be things that will be required of you that takes you away from your kids.

And you may not be able to be there in every moment.

That is okay.

And it's okay to have those conversations too.

But what I mean is this longer term vision of that, just because mom and dad are making a decision that the relationship doesn't work, that it has no impact on how you feel about your kids,

and the level of dedication and love that you have for your kids.

Those are two very separate things.

And I toiled with this personally.

I was the one who made the decision to leave my marriage, my first marriage.

And this was one of the main things that I thought about was the impact that it was gonna have on my kids.

Is it gonna change how they think about love?

Is it gonna change how they think about relationships?

Is it gonna change how they think about me?

And you wanna talk about lost sleep, looking at a ceiling fan, even though I don't have a ceiling fan, but I don't imagine that's what I would be doing, staring at the ceiling as it slowly went around.

Instead, I just stared at the ceiling.

I get it.

I know exactly how you feel.

But this is going to suck for your kids.

I think even a great divorce, whatever that sounds like or looks like, is going to be tumultuous to a degree.