Andy Stumpf

You are taking the foundation of what they consider to be normal and you are turning it on their head.

Their mom and dad, who depending on the age of your kids, you didn't include this in the email, they're going to be like,

Maybe their processing ability isn't as good as it will be later on in their life, in their mid to late teens or into their 20s.

Maybe their single-digit age, very different experiences.

And the single-digit ages, mom and dad, you're the center of the known universe for your kids.

And I don't know if they can even comprehend what that means when two planets are going to collide and then head off in different directions.

God, I've thought a lot about...

would the divorce is first off, there's no such thing as a good divorce.

I think there are good reasons to get a divorce, but I just, especially if you have kids, I hesitate to use the word good, but would it be better to do it when they can process less or better to do it when they can thoroughly process more?

I don't have an answer there.

And there's probably pros and cons to both, but being that rock for your kids is,

maybe even over expressive to them on how they're just not going to be alone.

How regardless of whether or not mom and dad stay together, you are still their dad and you are always going to be their dad and you are always going to be there for them.

And I know I'm getting repetitive in nature, but there's a reason for that.

You don't know how this process is going to be, but you can control whether or not you are that person, whether or not you are there for them and the way that you are going to express them.

And you need to be.

And if you have to travel for work and things like that, that's okay.

You can verbalize that.

But when you're back, you need to be back.

You need to be the dad.