Angus Fletcher

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2,582 appearances 3 recordings 2 series first heard Mar 2025 last heard 8 Jul

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Tetragrammaton with Rick Rubin · Angus Fletcher · 8 Jul 2026 podcast

So we teach people to have conversations in which they're forced to ask who, what, when, where, how, but never why.

Because the moment you ask why, why are you asking why?

You're asking why because something has surprised you.

And a surprise is an exception to one of your mental rules.

And so what that's telling you is I've actually come to the limits of my rules and I need to find a new rule.

But if I ask why, I'm not going to make a new rule.

I'm just going to surface somebody else's rule and take that.

So what I actually have to do is I have to resist asking why and start asking more questions.

That is correct.

But

Also more fundamentally, people don't know why.

So if I ask you why you did something, you'll just give me some label.

And this is why when you're having a conversation with a friend, you can understand your friend better than they understand themselves.

And you can come to understand each other through conversation better.

Like you're helping me understand myself better now.

And that comes from resisting explanation.

and pushing into surprise.

So for example, if you said to me, hey, what's your favorite thing to do?

And I said, oh, I love to kayak.

And you say, well, who do you go kayaking with?

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