Anita Shimmins

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415 appearances 2 recordings 1 series first heard May 2026 last heard 10 Jul

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But Are You Happy? · How To Stop Overthinking What People Think Of You · 10 Jul 2026 podcast

That's a really good thing.

Yeah.

It also gives you a sense of have my boundaries been crossed or have my values been, has it been sort of a violation of my values?

So it does give you really important information as well.

So it's not just bad.

The bad thing is, is if it takes you to a place where, you know, it makes going through life really hard because you're sort of expecting and seeing threat at every corner.

But by default, it's not necessarily something bad.

And sometimes you will find that actually, even once you've done all the thought exercises that we might talk about in a bit, that what's left at the end is actually something that you need to address with the other person.

So something that is genuinely important to pay attention to.

you're the one to blame oh i'm in the wrong i've up so i need to look at that whereas to even come to a place where you're like oh actually that wasn't okay it's really big that's a really good point shawnee because i was coming at it from more like if you're prone to always take things personally can it still be a good thing but you're right if you're prone to always internalize and find fault within rather than

find fault in others.

And it can actually be a really empowering thing to take that as a cue that there is something that needs to be addressed here and you need to respect those boundaries internally.

Yeah, I think first of all, just validate that there's it's normal to have big reactions to things that happen.

So you're not weird for having a big reaction and don't lay a criticism on top because it's already enough to deal with the initial reaction.

Then I would say if you can give yourself a little bit of a pause.

And like you said before, sometimes our whole body is activated.

So can we try and downregulate how intense we're feeling this in our body as well?

And then can I give myself a little bit of an opportunity to disentangle

what actually happened and how much did I layer on top of it and the parts that I've layered on top of it?

Can I give myself a lot of self-compassion and take that layer away?

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