Anna Goldfarb

Would you want to get coffee?

Well, now you have more information and you can decide if this is something compelling to you or not.

It might be.

It might not be.

But that's the main thing I learned is that every friendship needs an about.

I want to repeat it because as you think about your people who are listening are probably thinking of their closest friendships and they're wondering like, what are the abouts?

I learned that abouts can change, be outdated, or be absent.

So your friend from camp, when you were young, okay, so your friendship about is camp.

How often do you want to talk about camp?

Like every eight years?

I mean, is that why your friendship looks like it does where you don't talk that often?

But if your about is something really interesting to you now, then you have a case for being in touch much more frequently.

But it cannot start unless there's a clear and compelling about that's keeping the friendship active.

And there are two kinds of friendships.

And I don't think most people know this.

There are two kinds of friendships.

The first is memorial friendships.

And those are ones based on affection where there's not very high frequency of contact.

You have your old friends from childhood.

You talk every so often.