Anna Goldfarb

What do you talk about?

Is that interesting and compelling to you?

Joe Blow, I don't know if it's important to him to make friends.

It's really an attitude of I'm open to it.

The answer is you care about other people.

You care about helping other people live their best life.

And you adopt an attitude of I want to be here and help.

But also men are having trouble with friendships right now, like historically.

Men are having a lot of trouble with this modern friendship thing.

So it's understandable that Joe Blow is feeling out of sorts because a lot of friendship requires vulnerability.

And a lot of men right now aren't comfortable with that.

That's not how they practice friendship.

Men like to practice friendship, generally speaking, with doing something together, watching sports together, playing sports together.

They're not as comfortable just, let's get together and talk.

Men don't want to be criticized or judged.

And part of the reason that they shy away from friendships in midlife is because they want more independence.

They don't want people knowing their problems

But women, they want more interdependence.

They want to be a part of people's lives.

They want to nurture their friendships.