Anna Goldfarb

So I want to learn more about this.

And this is something I'm currently researching.

But there is a real difference here.

So I don't want to invalidate men's experiences.

I'm not a man.

But from what I understand, they have some real challenges with the current friendship landscape.

So I understand Joe Blow.

I love saying that name.

But for him to understand what's going on, I would tell him friendships need a clear and compelling about.

Let's start there.

What are you interested in?

What do you want to talk to someone about?

What can you offer someone?

I have this example in my book of my friend Adam, who was working at the Apple store and he went to the comic book store on his lunch break, came back, slapped down the comic book on the table.

And his coworker, Octavia, said, oh, you like comic books?

And he's like, yeah.

And they...

hit it off they had this whole they started a podcast about comic books they become dear dear friends and Octavius needed a kidney he had kidney failure and he needed a donor and Adam like leapt into action he's like well I'll get tested I'll do this and he donated his kidney to his friend and

And it's remarkable that a friend would do that for one another, but it all goes back to that interest in comic books.

The interest was so compelling to both men that they ended up in this life-saving operation.