Anna Runkle

But dating properly, it's spending time with somebody in a fairly structured way so that you can find out what's the deal, and you can get your cards on the table. It's like, listen, I really am aiming for marriage. I already have a child. How do you feel about that? Are you open to that? Are you into monogamy? I am.

But dating properly, it's spending time with somebody in a fairly structured way so that you can find out what's the deal, and you can get your cards on the table. It's like, listen, I really am aiming for marriage. I already have a child. How do you feel about that? Are you open to that? Are you into monogamy? I am.

But dating properly, it's spending time with somebody in a fairly structured way so that you can find out what's the deal, and you can get your cards on the table. It's like, listen, I really am aiming for marriage. I already have a child. How do you feel about that? Are you open to that? Are you into monogamy? I am.

Those conversations, when I work with people who are damaged around their ability to bond like that and who have gotten into one unavailable obsession after another or actual relationship with somebody unavailable, or they've been tucked into polyamory, even though that's not what they want, but the mind, hope springs eternal, right? I'll change this somehow. Yeah.

Those conversations, when I work with people who are damaged around their ability to bond like that and who have gotten into one unavailable obsession after another or actual relationship with somebody unavailable, or they've been tucked into polyamory, even though that's not what they want, but the mind, hope springs eternal, right? I'll change this somehow. Yeah.

Those conversations, when I work with people who are damaged around their ability to bond like that and who have gotten into one unavailable obsession after another or actual relationship with somebody unavailable, or they've been tucked into polyamory, even though that's not what they want, but the mind, hope springs eternal, right? I'll change this somehow. Yeah.

And, um, and so when I coach them, I always start everybody out and say, you know, could you just describe like, what's your heart's desire? What do you most want? And I would say most people, men and women, what they want is to be married. And, but there's this huge social taboo. You're not supposed to want that. You're not supposed to say it. Like it would be shameful to say it on a date.

And, um, and so when I coach them, I always start everybody out and say, you know, could you just describe like, what's your heart's desire? What do you most want? And I would say most people, men and women, what they want is to be married. And, but there's this huge social taboo. You're not supposed to want that. You're not supposed to say it. Like it would be shameful to say it on a date.

And, um, and so when I coach them, I always start everybody out and say, you know, could you just describe like, what's your heart's desire? What do you most want? And I would say most people, men and women, what they want is to be married. And, but there's this huge social taboo. You're not supposed to want that. You're not supposed to say it. Like it would be shameful to say it on a date.

You're trying to label things. I'm just like, oh gosh, this whole thing, this whole thing has really messed people up. And it's okay. And that was a huge part of my personal development to learn that I could be open about, I want to get married. I want to have kids. And if you're not into that, goodbye.

You're trying to label things. I'm just like, oh gosh, this whole thing, this whole thing has really messed people up. And it's okay. And that was a huge part of my personal development to learn that I could be open about, I want to get married. I want to have kids. And if you're not into that, goodbye.

You're trying to label things. I'm just like, oh gosh, this whole thing, this whole thing has really messed people up. And it's okay. And that was a huge part of my personal development to learn that I could be open about, I want to get married. I want to have kids. And if you're not into that, goodbye.

That's right. And it's not only costing you time that may be precious if you want to have children. It's precious under all circumstances, really. It's everybody's precious time, but it's costing you time, but it's also grinding you down. That experience of, I call it being cool girl, you know, cool girl. I'm like, oh, that's cool. You know, oh, you're seeing somebody else tonight? Never mind.

That's right. And it's not only costing you time that may be precious if you want to have children. It's precious under all circumstances, really. It's everybody's precious time, but it's costing you time, but it's also grinding you down. That experience of, I call it being cool girl, you know, cool girl. I'm like, oh, that's cool. You know, oh, you're seeing somebody else tonight? Never mind.

That's right. And it's not only costing you time that may be precious if you want to have children. It's precious under all circumstances, really. It's everybody's precious time, but it's costing you time, but it's also grinding you down. That experience of, I call it being cool girl, you know, cool girl. I'm like, oh, that's cool. You know, oh, you're seeing somebody else tonight? Never mind.

It was my birthday. I was, well, anyway, you know, that's cool girl. Like, no, that's cool. Sorry. And I always say if I had a nickel for everything, Everybody who came to me because they had been trying to lie about who they were and how they felt to be okay in the eyes of somebody else, I would have a lot of nickels, at least $1.50. I don't know.

It was my birthday. I was, well, anyway, you know, that's cool girl. Like, no, that's cool. Sorry. And I always say if I had a nickel for everything, Everybody who came to me because they had been trying to lie about who they were and how they felt to be okay in the eyes of somebody else, I would have a lot of nickels, at least $1.50. I don't know.

It was my birthday. I was, well, anyway, you know, that's cool girl. Like, no, that's cool. Sorry. And I always say if I had a nickel for everything, Everybody who came to me because they had been trying to lie about who they were and how they felt to be okay in the eyes of somebody else, I would have a lot of nickels, at least $1.50. I don't know.

Maybe a little more, but it's really, really common. We've all been programmed. You're not allowed to like that. One of the things I do with people is I just give them permission to want what they want. Just want what you want and just be open about it. It doesn't mean you're going to get it. Life is not Amazon.com.

Maybe a little more, but it's really, really common. We've all been programmed. You're not allowed to like that. One of the things I do with people is I just give them permission to want what they want. Just want what you want and just be open about it. It doesn't mean you're going to get it. Life is not Amazon.com.