Anna Runkle

Maybe a little more, but it's really, really common. We've all been programmed. You're not allowed to like that. One of the things I do with people is I just give them permission to want what they want. Just want what you want and just be open about it. It doesn't mean you're going to get it. Life is not Amazon.com.

You don't always get what you ordered, but you're definitely not going to get it if you're just all wobbly about it and you keep bonding with the wrong person.

You don't always get what you ordered, but you're definitely not going to get it if you're just all wobbly about it and you keep bonding with the wrong person.

You don't always get what you ordered, but you're definitely not going to get it if you're just all wobbly about it and you keep bonding with the wrong person.

Yeah, it's weird, huh? I think there's a kind of privilege that nobody talks about. I'm a kid who grew up with a heroin addict mom, very poor on welfare, and when people talk about my privilege, I'm like, you know. not necessarily in every way there, but I think there's this incredible privilege of people who are loved properly all their lives.

Yeah, it's weird, huh? I think there's a kind of privilege that nobody talks about. I'm a kid who grew up with a heroin addict mom, very poor on welfare, and when people talk about my privilege, I'm like, you know. not necessarily in every way there, but I think there's this incredible privilege of people who are loved properly all their lives.

Yeah, it's weird, huh? I think there's a kind of privilege that nobody talks about. I'm a kid who grew up with a heroin addict mom, very poor on welfare, and when people talk about my privilege, I'm like, you know. not necessarily in every way there, but I think there's this incredible privilege of people who are loved properly all their lives.

And so they have an innate sense of like when somebody talks to them in an, in an abusive manner, they're out of there. They're just like, I don't, I don't tolerate this. They feel it, they see it, they leave and they know they can like, they have people to return to so that they're not all alone.

And so they have an innate sense of like when somebody talks to them in an, in an abusive manner, they're out of there. They're just like, I don't, I don't tolerate this. They feel it, they see it, they leave and they know they can like, they have people to return to so that they're not all alone.

And so they have an innate sense of like when somebody talks to them in an, in an abusive manner, they're out of there. They're just like, I don't, I don't tolerate this. They feel it, they see it, they leave and they know they can like, they have people to return to so that they're not all alone.

But if you're all alone in the world and a lot of people really are, and there's been times I, I just didn't have people to go to and, You know, there's a lot of incentive to just trying to have words for everything. I call it crap fitting. You fit yourself to crap. You just need you need somebody to hang out with so bad that you will tolerate unacceptable people and just intolerable conditions.

But if you're all alone in the world and a lot of people really are, and there's been times I, I just didn't have people to go to and, You know, there's a lot of incentive to just trying to have words for everything. I call it crap fitting. You fit yourself to crap. You just need you need somebody to hang out with so bad that you will tolerate unacceptable people and just intolerable conditions.

But if you're all alone in the world and a lot of people really are, and there's been times I, I just didn't have people to go to and, You know, there's a lot of incentive to just trying to have words for everything. I call it crap fitting. You fit yourself to crap. You just need you need somebody to hang out with so bad that you will tolerate unacceptable people and just intolerable conditions.

And then you get so good at it. You don't want to be good at crap fitting. And it'll keep a roof over your head sometimes, you know, and you stay in something. But sometimes you have to take the bold step and get out. And that's like when we see somebody who's an abused partner and they just don't leave and they keep going back. It's very hard to make that break because...

And then you get so good at it. You don't want to be good at crap fitting. And it'll keep a roof over your head sometimes, you know, and you stay in something. But sometimes you have to take the bold step and get out. And that's like when we see somebody who's an abused partner and they just don't leave and they keep going back. It's very hard to make that break because...

And then you get so good at it. You don't want to be good at crap fitting. And it'll keep a roof over your head sometimes, you know, and you stay in something. But sometimes you have to take the bold step and get out. And that's like when we see somebody who's an abused partner and they just don't leave and they keep going back. It's very hard to make that break because...

Staying grinds down your confidence. It grinds down your realistic vision that, yes, I might have to couch surf or live in a shelter or have some crappy little apartment for a little bit, and I'll have to find a job, and I don't know how I'm going to do it, but there's no other way, and I will find a way. That's what freedom is, like actual healing and freedom.

Staying grinds down your confidence. It grinds down your realistic vision that, yes, I might have to couch surf or live in a shelter or have some crappy little apartment for a little bit, and I'll have to find a job, and I don't know how I'm going to do it, but there's no other way, and I will find a way. That's what freedom is, like actual healing and freedom.

Staying grinds down your confidence. It grinds down your realistic vision that, yes, I might have to couch surf or live in a shelter or have some crappy little apartment for a little bit, and I'll have to find a job, and I don't know how I'm going to do it, but there's no other way, and I will find a way. That's what freedom is, like actual healing and freedom.

It's not like controlling other people and stopping them from triggering you or anything. The freedom is just knowing whatever happens, I'll figure it out. I'll figure out what to do. Like that's confidence and freedom.