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Anna Runkle

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
644 total appearances

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Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

Yes. So, well, two things. When I was a kid, I was obsessed with horses. And some people say that's sexual. I don't think it was.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

I was really obsessed with horses and then Laura Ingalls Wilder, which is really, you know who she is? The Little House books. Well, there was Little House on the Prairie, which was kind of a doofy TV show, but there's these books that are some great literature that sustained me as a kid about going westward in a wagon and trying to survive out there in a homestead. And I loved these books.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

I was really obsessed with horses and then Laura Ingalls Wilder, which is really, you know who she is? The Little House books. Well, there was Little House on the Prairie, which was kind of a doofy TV show, but there's these books that are some great literature that sustained me as a kid about going westward in a wagon and trying to survive out there in a homestead. And I loved these books.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

I was really obsessed with horses and then Laura Ingalls Wilder, which is really, you know who she is? The Little House books. Well, there was Little House on the Prairie, which was kind of a doofy TV show, but there's these books that are some great literature that sustained me as a kid about going westward in a wagon and trying to survive out there in a homestead. And I loved these books.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They really spoke to me. And I wanted to go back in time and be in her family, not mine. And And I would think about her all the time. And then I would buy clothes at thrift stores and I didn't know how to sew. I was like 10, you know, so I would staple together fabric. And I bought these used ice skates and I unscrewed the blades and I would walk around in ice skates.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They really spoke to me. And I wanted to go back in time and be in her family, not mine. And And I would think about her all the time. And then I would buy clothes at thrift stores and I didn't know how to sew. I was like 10, you know, so I would staple together fabric. And I bought these used ice skates and I unscrewed the blades and I would walk around in ice skates.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They really spoke to me. And I wanted to go back in time and be in her family, not mine. And And I would think about her all the time. And then I would buy clothes at thrift stores and I didn't know how to sew. I was like 10, you know, so I would staple together fabric. And I bought these used ice skates and I unscrewed the blades and I would walk around in ice skates.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They have no flexibility in the soles. And I would go to school in these stapled dresses and ice skate shoes and a bonnet. Yeah. And everybody just tolerated me as some weird kid. But I was in her world. And I was just really committed. I don't want dinner. I'm going to go make a fire outside and heat my food up on the fire in the backyard. And my parents let me do it. They were hippies.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They have no flexibility in the soles. And I would go to school in these stapled dresses and ice skate shoes and a bonnet. Yeah. And everybody just tolerated me as some weird kid. But I was in her world. And I was just really committed. I don't want dinner. I'm going to go make a fire outside and heat my food up on the fire in the backyard. And my parents let me do it. They were hippies.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They have no flexibility in the soles. And I would go to school in these stapled dresses and ice skate shoes and a bonnet. Yeah. And everybody just tolerated me as some weird kid. But I was in her world. And I was just really committed. I don't want dinner. I'm going to go make a fire outside and heat my food up on the fire in the backyard. And my parents let me do it. They were hippies.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

So they let me do it. So I was sort of already in these other worlds. And I had an imaginary horse. And horses for me were like, you can go where you want to go. You can just like get on your horse and ride where you want to go. And you're not like stuck. My family moved from a commune in Berkeley to this like dumpy little thing in Tucson, Arizona during the Vietnam War. And it was 110 degrees.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

So they let me do it. So I was sort of already in these other worlds. And I had an imaginary horse. And horses for me were like, you can go where you want to go. You can just like get on your horse and ride where you want to go. And you're not like stuck. My family moved from a commune in Berkeley to this like dumpy little thing in Tucson, Arizona during the Vietnam War. And it was 110 degrees.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

So they let me do it. So I was sort of already in these other worlds. And I had an imaginary horse. And horses for me were like, you can go where you want to go. You can just like get on your horse and ride where you want to go. And you're not like stuck. My family moved from a commune in Berkeley to this like dumpy little thing in Tucson, Arizona during the Vietnam War. And it was 110 degrees.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And I needed a horse to get out of there. I was so stuck. And so these were my ways of escaping. And so I talked to a lot of people and limerence seems to begin in childhood with these fantasies and this ability to transport yourself. But I've also heard now from people, and this is not something that I've had myself, but they get limerent like over teacher figures, right?

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And I needed a horse to get out of there. I was so stuck. And so these were my ways of escaping. And so I talked to a lot of people and limerence seems to begin in childhood with these fantasies and this ability to transport yourself. But I've also heard now from people, and this is not something that I've had myself, but they get limerent like over teacher figures, right?

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And I needed a horse to get out of there. I was so stuck. And so these were my ways of escaping. And so I talked to a lot of people and limerence seems to begin in childhood with these fantasies and this ability to transport yourself. But I've also heard now from people, and this is not something that I've had myself, but they get limerent like over teacher figures, right?

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

There's women who are not gay, but they become completely obsessed with a woman a generation older. And they're telling me this, and I'm always like, I hope you don't mean me. But that's what they do. I've received letters that are really deep and complex and puzzling about it. And the way the mother figure seems to... seems to be getting something out of it too.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

There's women who are not gay, but they become completely obsessed with a woman a generation older. And they're telling me this, and I'm always like, I hope you don't mean me. But that's what they do. I've received letters that are really deep and complex and puzzling about it. And the way the mother figure seems to... seems to be getting something out of it too.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

There's women who are not gay, but they become completely obsessed with a woman a generation older. And they're telling me this, and I'm always like, I hope you don't mean me. But that's what they do. I've received letters that are really deep and complex and puzzling about it. And the way the mother figure seems to... seems to be getting something out of it too.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And the whole relationship usually explodes. There's something really unstable about it, but they come together like, yeah, there's a fit there with it. And it's really common. I've seen that.