Anna Runkle

Just the need for love is so great that we will die for it. And I think that's what happens is that natural instinct to fall in love and have a mate is just sitting there going along like an engine without the right person in front of it.

Just the need for love is so great that we will die for it. And I think that's what happens is that natural instinct to fall in love and have a mate is just sitting there going along like an engine without the right person in front of it.

Yeah, I don't think it's even conscious, mostly, right? Not at all. It may match very closely. We're designed to have that primary relationship with our moms to sort of imprint us with how to fall in love. And let's say that she was high all the time or gone or just troubled, had to work all the time, crying, depressed, mentally ill, running off with a boyfriend.

Yeah, I don't think it's even conscious, mostly, right? Not at all. It may match very closely. We're designed to have that primary relationship with our moms to sort of imprint us with how to fall in love. And let's say that she was high all the time or gone or just troubled, had to work all the time, crying, depressed, mentally ill, running off with a boyfriend.

Yeah, I don't think it's even conscious, mostly, right? Not at all. It may match very closely. We're designed to have that primary relationship with our moms to sort of imprint us with how to fall in love. And let's say that she was high all the time or gone or just troubled, had to work all the time, crying, depressed, mentally ill, running off with a boyfriend.

Whatever it was, then the abandoning relationship can feel, you know, it's just the thing that activates you and you can't help it. And I made up a word for that. It's the erotization of abandonment. Like it only turns you on if you're getting kind of left.

Whatever it was, then the abandoning relationship can feel, you know, it's just the thing that activates you and you can't help it. And I made up a word for that. It's the erotization of abandonment. Like it only turns you on if you're getting kind of left.

Whatever it was, then the abandoning relationship can feel, you know, it's just the thing that activates you and you can't help it. And I made up a word for that. It's the erotization of abandonment. Like it only turns you on if you're getting kind of left.

I've done my share of it. And I'm an intelligent person. And it makes no sense.

I've done my share of it. And I'm an intelligent person. And it makes no sense.

I've done my share of it. And I'm an intelligent person. And it makes no sense.

It's caused me no end of suffering. And just sort of some attachment wound kind of just pushing me along. And that's a lot of what my career is, is I teach people a more structured way to date. So that you can override that problem. You can't necessarily undo the problem because it's sort of imprinted on you, but you can override it by dating in a structured way where you don't let that happen.

It's caused me no end of suffering. And just sort of some attachment wound kind of just pushing me along. And that's a lot of what my career is, is I teach people a more structured way to date. So that you can override that problem. You can't necessarily undo the problem because it's sort of imprinted on you, but you can override it by dating in a structured way where you don't let that happen.

It's caused me no end of suffering. And just sort of some attachment wound kind of just pushing me along. And that's a lot of what my career is, is I teach people a more structured way to date. So that you can override that problem. You can't necessarily undo the problem because it's sort of imprinted on you, but you can override it by dating in a structured way where you don't let that happen.

You stay with your reason without bonding with somebody so that it's even possible to see the red flags.

You stay with your reason without bonding with somebody so that it's even possible to see the red flags.

You stay with your reason without bonding with somebody so that it's even possible to see the red flags.

But what we're doing when we're going down the rabbit hole of the red flag man, the bad boy, is we stop talking to people. We don't want to tell anybody about it. We know they'll disapprove and we want to keep the little fantasy intact.

But what we're doing when we're going down the rabbit hole of the red flag man, the bad boy, is we stop talking to people. We don't want to tell anybody about it. We know they'll disapprove and we want to keep the little fantasy intact.

But what we're doing when we're going down the rabbit hole of the red flag man, the bad boy, is we stop talking to people. We don't want to tell anybody about it. We know they'll disapprove and we want to keep the little fantasy intact.