Arthur Brooks
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first heard Jul 2026
last heard 11 Jul
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It's remitting, ultimately.
The way that people will accelerate their healing is by helping people who are fresher in their grief.
And so the best way, if you lose a child, for you to heal faster and better is for you to find somebody else who's more recently lost a child and help that person.
which is one of the laws of love, that you will actually heal more when you give more.
That your injury is actually, it actually has a purpose.
Because you can share what has happened in your life with somebody else and help that person heal in their fresher wounds.
It sounds like a karmic truth, but I think it's a fundamental truth, a beautiful truth about humanity is the way that this works.
Now, as...
way to to to deal with the fact that that we have this horrible tragedy gratitude is great and there's a reason for that i mean we haven't we have a negativity bias homo sapiens have a negativity bias you know you you don't want to be focusing on grateful you are to find those berries on that bush 250 000 years ago while there's a saber-toothed tiger sneaking up behind you you need to be focused on the saber-toothed tiger not on the good things bad things
If you're sitting at a party and somebody's smiling sweetly at you from across the room, that's nice.
But if somebody's frowning angrily at you, take note.
That might be a big problem once you get outside on the street.
And so we do.
We notice all the terrible things that are happening to us, and that's amplified in the environment of grief.
So what do we do?
We have to manually turn up the part that's less natural, which is positive affect about naturally good things.
And it's funny how we do this.
Religious people sort of do this naturally.
We almost lost one of our children many years ago in 1999.
Our oldest was one and he fell out of a third story window and it was horrible, it was horrible.
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