Arthur C. Brooks
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1,407 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Jul 2026
last heard 9 Jul
Arthur C. Brooks’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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That's just as an arbitrary example.
That poor guy.
And what that does is you conclude that love is earned.
What you want is love.
We are built to love.
Love and be loved.
As creatures, that's our rocket fuel.
But if you only feel because of the lessons that you got when you were a little kid that you were going to get energy and affection and attention from adults who cared about you, when you did something, you become kind of a human doing.
And, you know, it's important because love actually can't be earned.
Love is a free gift, free of the given.
Love is a grace.
If you surround yourself with people who make you earn their love, like you have a girlfriend who makes you earn her love, you have friends who are sycophantic kiss-ups who make you earn their love,
they don't love you.
That's actually a test of whether they love you or not, and they don't.
Anybody who makes you earn their love can't love you and won't love you.
And you need to get away as soon as possible.
There's conditions.
You have conditions on your marriage.
Or if she actually clearly loves you a little bit less when you don't.
That's actually a big test.
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