Arthur C. Brooks

And there's less and less and less of that.

Or trying to solve love with technology, for example.

And one of the things that I find really encouraging is that the dating apps,

which have been really a problem because more and more people, I mean, you have to be on dating apps to meet people.

62% of long-term relationships start on dating apps today, but more and more people say they don't like the outcomes on the app.

So they're getting more lonely and they're less likely to find a real attraction on the apps.

The dating apps are more and more trying to not optimize time in app, but time in person.

And that's a really good thing because that's really where it comes from.

is time in person where we're neurobiologically linked.

Remember that we're supposed to, you know, eye contact.

It's everything, touch and eye contact or everything.

It's a really interesting thing that I talk about with young couples.

And I work with young couples a lot.

My wife and I actually work with young couples together.

And there's a neuropeptide in the brain called oxytocin.

You've probably heard of it.

Oxytocin is also known as the love molecule, the molecule of bonding.

Women have three times as much oxytocin as men.

One of the best ways that you can get oxytocin is direct eye contact with the person you're in love with.

It's like an oxytocin pump.