Arthur C. Brooks

We need this.

And these are the kinds of deep, complex links that lead us to a sense, even if you can't articulate it, of life's meaning.

No, but it's easiest with romantic love.

And for most people, that is the case.

There are many people who don't find their soulmates or they have a failed first big relationship or whatever it happens to be.

And they can actually, you can get a lot of this through friendship, particularly women.

Women through deep, deep, deep friendship can get most of the benefits that we get from this.

The ideal combination is a great marriage and great friendships.

But the truth is that if you can't have both, you need at least one.

You need at least one.

That's a problem because that's a fear of future regret.

That's actually a psychological problem.

And it's a fallacy because if you're trying to rule out future regret by doing something that isn't right, you will get real regret.

It's like, I'm running out of time.

So I'm going to make this the best that it can actually be.

I don't recommend marrying somebody you're not in love with.

Unless you're in an arranged marriage in a traditional culture and your parents are completely sure that once you know each other, you're going to be in love.

Those actually work pretty well, weirdly.

Do they really?

Yeah.