Arthur C. Brooks

Because your parents have very low divorce and dissolution rates.

Okay.

And your parents really know.

They're like, yeah, they're going to really love you.

Because it's based on your parents.

Here's actually what they do.

This is interesting.

We, when we choose our mates, we choose too much compatibility.

We choose people who are too much like us.

Yeah, yeah.

It's like I'm dating apps, for example.

You want somebody who, you know, likes the same kind of music and votes for the same politicians and, you know, thinks that Austin is cool and they like to eat sriracha or whatever, right?

And what you're getting is your sibling, which is not... Oh, God, that's awful.

It's not hot.

What you need is enough compatibility with values and then a lot of complementarity.

When somebody chooses for you, they find complementarity because they know.

And so that's why matchmakers are so effective.

Matchmakers get enough compatibility and a lot of complementarity where you complete each other.

But we're horrible matchmakers for ourselves because we're very narcissistic.

Oh, that's really interesting.