Ashley

Okay. So I'm going to try to say this as clearly and concisely as possible because I know there's a lot to get into. So my question is, is how do I move forward after discovering my husband's porn addiction and debt that he was hiding? from me related to that. So at the end of January this year, it's about five weeks ago, my husband confessed to me out of the blue.

I had no idea that anything was going on. I had no suspicions. I had no concerns. I will say we are people of faith. And in the last year, we've been getting more involved in our church, volunteering and just kind of going on a deeper level with that than just kind of the shallow base of just going to Sunday and then doing whatever we want to the rest of the week.

I had no idea that anything was going on. I had no suspicions. I had no concerns. I will say we are people of faith. And in the last year, we've been getting more involved in our church, volunteering and just kind of going on a deeper level with that than just kind of the shallow base of just going to Sunday and then doing whatever we want to the rest of the week.

I had no idea that anything was going on. I had no suspicions. I had no concerns. I will say we are people of faith. And in the last year, we've been getting more involved in our church, volunteering and just kind of going on a deeper level with that than just kind of the shallow base of just going to Sunday and then doing whatever we want to the rest of the week.

And so I thought we had come to a really good place. And then he confessed this, that he... felt like he wasn't going to be able to rid himself of this until he came to me with it. And he confessed that he had been struggling with porn his whole life and that he actually has about $5,000 of credit card debt that he racked up on OnlyFans. And so we got into all of that and...

And so I thought we had come to a really good place. And then he confessed this, that he... felt like he wasn't going to be able to rid himself of this until he came to me with it. And he confessed that he had been struggling with porn his whole life and that he actually has about $5,000 of credit card debt that he racked up on OnlyFans. And so we got into all of that and...

And so I thought we had come to a really good place. And then he confessed this, that he... felt like he wasn't going to be able to rid himself of this until he came to me with it. And he confessed that he had been struggling with porn his whole life and that he actually has about $5,000 of credit card debt that he racked up on OnlyFans. And so we got into all of that and...

I know you're always saying behavior is a language. And 24 hours, like the very next day, immediately, his entire behavior had changed. And I didn't realize how we had gotten so far from where we began as far as how we interact with each other, what our daily life looks like. And then I didn't realize until he changed it that...

I know you're always saying behavior is a language. And 24 hours, like the very next day, immediately, his entire behavior had changed. And I didn't realize how we had gotten so far from where we began as far as how we interact with each other, what our daily life looks like. And then I didn't realize until he changed it that...

I know you're always saying behavior is a language. And 24 hours, like the very next day, immediately, his entire behavior had changed. And I didn't realize how we had gotten so far from where we began as far as how we interact with each other, what our daily life looks like. And then I didn't realize until he changed it that...

he had been pulling away for a long time that he wasn't as affectionate as he used to be. Um, and you know, I thought that was partly just, you know, being, you know, we've been together for five years. Um, we're a blended family. We have, uh, one baby together. We have children from other marriages, but, um, our, our, our baby is about a year and a half old.

he had been pulling away for a long time that he wasn't as affectionate as he used to be. Um, and you know, I thought that was partly just, you know, being, you know, we've been together for five years. Um, we're a blended family. We have, uh, one baby together. We have children from other marriages, but, um, our, our, our baby is about a year and a half old.

he had been pulling away for a long time that he wasn't as affectionate as he used to be. Um, and you know, I thought that was partly just, you know, being, you know, we've been together for five years. Um, we're a blended family. We have, uh, one baby together. We have children from other marriages, but, um, our, our, our baby is about a year and a half old.

And so I just kind of thought it was, you know, just what happens after postpartum, you know, just kind of, you grow apart, you don't, you don't talk as much, you're stressed out, whatever. But, Um, so anyway, he, he has changed his behavior like 180 degrees. Like he's, he's more immediately the next day, he's more affectionate with me. He's talking to me. He's more open with me.

And so I just kind of thought it was, you know, just what happens after postpartum, you know, just kind of, you grow apart, you don't, you don't talk as much, you're stressed out, whatever. But, Um, so anyway, he, he has changed his behavior like 180 degrees. Like he's, he's more immediately the next day, he's more affectionate with me. He's talking to me. He's more open with me.

And so I just kind of thought it was, you know, just what happens after postpartum, you know, just kind of, you grow apart, you don't, you don't talk as much, you're stressed out, whatever. But, Um, so anyway, he, he has changed his behavior like 180 degrees. Like he's, he's more immediately the next day, he's more affectionate with me. He's talking to me. He's more open with me.

He's like trying to reassure me. He's more involved with the kids rather than just like putting his earbuds in and doing chores or whatever he's doing. He's like more involved with them as well. He's, you know, not getting irritated anymore. with like the baby throwing fits like he was before and just really, really night and day.

He's like trying to reassure me. He's more involved with the kids rather than just like putting his earbuds in and doing chores or whatever he's doing. He's like more involved with them as well. He's, you know, not getting irritated anymore. with like the baby throwing fits like he was before and just really, really night and day.

He's like trying to reassure me. He's more involved with the kids rather than just like putting his earbuds in and doing chores or whatever he's doing. He's like more involved with them as well. He's, you know, not getting irritated anymore. with like the baby throwing fits like he was before and just really, really night and day.

And then two weeks after his initial confession, which mind you, I had asked him, do you have any, like, did you have an affair? No. Um, is there anything else I need to know? No. Two weeks afterwards, I've just kind of like had this like nagging feeling and I kept getting, you know, like the lightning bolt things in my mind and I continue to get those. And