Autumn

So how can I fix something that's not broken if I don't know that's broken in a sense, you know?

I don't know.

With them specifically.

I do think the biggest thing is probably the pace.

Like I've noticed, and it's like, I don't put myself out there that much and it takes a lot for me to like somebody.

So I don't pursue guys.

It's just not in my nature.

I'm just not like that.

So the guys that this keeps happening to are the guys that pursue me and pursue me hard.

And they...

Start very quickly.

And I think that could be a problem in the sense of, I don't want to say love bombing, but it's just very much so intentional, so overwhelming and affectionate, so quick that maybe they scare themselves.

Yes.

I would say it's very situational.

It just depends on how much we can see.

If it's someone that I'm seeing a couple times a week, that's obviously going to progress longer than it is the other one.

Um, but it usually takes me a good, like, if I do end up like in the person I'm usually in it by like a good couple, three weeks in, I'm like, okay, like I, I really like this guy now.

Like I, he's very sweet to me.

I, we have a lot in common, things like that.

And at that point I kind of just catch on to the pace that they're at.