Barry

However, you need a tool, but what I'm hearing, Tom, from you, and I'll confess, I didn't read your book yet.

However, I did research on your book and I saw one of the interviews that you did about a month ago, I think it was on CBS,

talking about the book and this idea that if not addressed right away, immediately, you started to talk about this, people start to try and construct these things

to bury it, basically, to kind of get on top of it.

And so it never gets resolved.

It's like a volcano, you know, in a way that's going to break down and explode somewhere unless it's addressed appropriately.

And one of the problems that two things from a medical perspective is the ability as a family doc or pediatrician of identifying trauma that's significant enough.

And we don't,

You know, oftentimes you see people other than for acute illnesses every year or so.

So I think the acute medical model is not going to necessarily be very helpful.

And then the other piece is what's the toolbox that that parents need?

Like if your parents, you know, had.

a better toolbox.

You know, yeah, I could say love and reassurance, but then how do you, how do you do that?

Because it's not like a magic formula.

I mean, a lot of it centers around love and caring and again, the ability to reassure.

But then as you pointed out, our parents had their own traumas that were very different than ours.

And

Actually, on the TV interview, you talked about Isabella, I think was the first thing that you talked about there, and how her behavior toward her son was very much related to her trauma that she never had.

really had dealt with her father committing suicide, things like that.