Bela Gandhi

We see someone, we're attracted to them, suddenly we've got squeezes of dopamine going through our system, which motivates us to go find this person, right?

And then we find one that we like.

And then with physical contact, we start sleeping with each other, right?

Now we've got oxytocin floating as well.

For some people, this could be date one, date three, date six, whatever it is.

So now we've got lots of rumination, obsession, attachment going on at this point.

When if you add up the cumulative hours that you've actually met somebody, let's say you've been on three dates with somebody and it's hot and heavy.

Like if you've spent two hours with this person, right?

That's six hours over three dates.

It's not even Monday at work.

And now we've got these hormones that are not only making us want to be with this person obsessively, we feel emotionally attached to them.

What also happens concurrently is our prefrontal cortex starts to get quieter.

Serotonin starts to reduce.

So what happens?

Our brain, that's normally more vigilant and looking out for red flags, sort of goes on offline, right, when we need it most.

So there's this cocktail of hormones that are going on that want us to procreate.

Now, what our brains, right, if you think about it, at the year 1900, the average age to mortality was about 30%.

So it was like, okay, I see you.

You see me.

Great.