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Ben Hart

👤 Speaker
405 total appearances

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Podcast Appearances

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

One, I'm not qualified. Two, I don't talk about relationships. And three, I don't talk about marriage, specifically the early stage dating. And I think that's important because the early stage is like, how do you start to attract the kind of guy you want? And I think a lot of the qualities I was talking about being just a little bit more

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

One, I'm not qualified. Two, I don't talk about relationships. And three, I don't talk about marriage, specifically the early stage dating. And I think that's important because the early stage is like, how do you start to attract the kind of guy you want? And I think a lot of the qualities I was talking about being just a little bit more

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I guess we use these buzzwords like feminine or a little bit more softer, a little more open, a little more caring, a little more present. You're presenting in that light as opposed to presenting like you're a ball buster. And I think that when guys sense the ball busting, they tend to leave.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I guess we use these buzzwords like feminine or a little bit more softer, a little more open, a little more caring, a little more present. You're presenting in that light as opposed to presenting like you're a ball buster. And I think that when guys sense the ball busting, they tend to leave.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I guess we use these buzzwords like feminine or a little bit more softer, a little more open, a little more caring, a little more present. You're presenting in that light as opposed to presenting like you're a ball buster. And I think that when guys sense the ball busting, they tend to leave.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Oh, for sure. I mean, I talk about a lot of different things, right? So a couple things I kind of made up along the way, which is the pest, which I originally talked about before, like the basics fundamentals of flirting. And I talk about the devil bag, Bonnie, which is like eye contact and looking back when you pass a dude, you know, you make eye contact, you pass him, you look back.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Oh, for sure. I mean, I talk about a lot of different things, right? So a couple things I kind of made up along the way, which is the pest, which I originally talked about before, like the basics fundamentals of flirting. And I talk about the devil bag, Bonnie, which is like eye contact and looking back when you pass a dude, you know, you make eye contact, you pass him, you look back.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Oh, for sure. I mean, I talk about a lot of different things, right? So a couple things I kind of made up along the way, which is the pest, which I originally talked about before, like the basics fundamentals of flirting. And I talk about the devil bag, Bonnie, which is like eye contact and looking back when you pass a dude, you know, you make eye contact, you pass him, you look back.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

It's like giving the keys to the key. I talk about a lot of different ways to flirt, but I always talk about breaking the touch barrier. Eye contact, smile, and breaking the touch barrier, specifically on date one or after date one, are little things that you will start to see how fast they start to ignite men to want to do more for you. And I feel like when you don't have those tools...

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

It's like giving the keys to the key. I talk about a lot of different ways to flirt, but I always talk about breaking the touch barrier. Eye contact, smile, and breaking the touch barrier, specifically on date one or after date one, are little things that you will start to see how fast they start to ignite men to want to do more for you. And I feel like when you don't have those tools...

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

It's like giving the keys to the key. I talk about a lot of different ways to flirt, but I always talk about breaking the touch barrier. Eye contact, smile, and breaking the touch barrier, specifically on date one or after date one, are little things that you will start to see how fast they start to ignite men to want to do more for you. And I feel like when you don't have those tools...

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

it's harder to get men to be like, oh yeah, I really want to step up. Because honestly, yeah, a lot of men are a little bit driven by ego, but they're driven also a little bit by like, they want to be able to do something here. And if they don't feel like they can do, there's very little, there's little ambition to want to do. So I think that's important.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

it's harder to get men to be like, oh yeah, I really want to step up. Because honestly, yeah, a lot of men are a little bit driven by ego, but they're driven also a little bit by like, they want to be able to do something here. And if they don't feel like they can do, there's very little, there's little ambition to want to do. So I think that's important.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

it's harder to get men to be like, oh yeah, I really want to step up. Because honestly, yeah, a lot of men are a little bit driven by ego, but they're driven also a little bit by like, they want to be able to do something here. And if they don't feel like they can do, there's very little, there's little ambition to want to do. So I think that's important.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

That's why I kind of, like I always talk about like, you know, when you're walking next to him, grab, hook his arm, like little things like that, they're going to make a huge difference in how he treats you moving forward. So I talk about those things, which I feel like you could say it could play a little bit in being a little more feminine, but it's really just being more open and flirty.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

That's why I kind of, like I always talk about like, you know, when you're walking next to him, grab, hook his arm, like little things like that, they're going to make a huge difference in how he treats you moving forward. So I talk about those things, which I feel like you could say it could play a little bit in being a little more feminine, but it's really just being more open and flirty.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

That's why I kind of, like I always talk about like, you know, when you're walking next to him, grab, hook his arm, like little things like that, they're going to make a huge difference in how he treats you moving forward. So I talk about those things, which I feel like you could say it could play a little bit in being a little more feminine, but it's really just being more open and flirty.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I don't know. I mean, listen, I could see, I could see a woman's perspective on that, but like, where's the L like, where's the L like, what's the fear of like, what's the fear associated with it? I'm just trying to understand. I get these questions all the time.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I don't know. I mean, listen, I could see, I could see a woman's perspective on that, but like, where's the L like, where's the L like, what's the fear of like, what's the fear associated with it? I'm just trying to understand. I get these questions all the time.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I don't know. I mean, listen, I could see, I could see a woman's perspective on that, but like, where's the L like, where's the L like, what's the fear of like, what's the fear associated with it? I'm just trying to understand. I get these questions all the time.