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Ben Hart

👤 Speaker
612 total appearances

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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Quite honestly, I think it depends, right? But most of the women that do tend to follow me and the advice I tend to give, I would say from, you know, it kind of goes, right? To give you an example, I have one in my group that's 78. It does span a little bit depending on where you're at, right?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And most people that are starting to want to date more intentionally or with purposes, I like to call it, are people that have kind of gotten past the fun moments and want to take things a little bit more serious now. And that tends to be more around like 28 to 55, if I were to give like an average age.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And most people that are starting to want to date more intentionally or with purposes, I like to call it, are people that have kind of gotten past the fun moments and want to take things a little bit more serious now. And that tends to be more around like 28 to 55, if I were to give like an average age.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And most people that are starting to want to date more intentionally or with purposes, I like to call it, are people that have kind of gotten past the fun moments and want to take things a little bit more serious now. And that tends to be more around like 28 to 55, if I were to give like an average age.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah, I think the women dating thing has been very interesting for me because that became a very quick focus point of mine because I realized that their troubles are very different from a lot of the male troubles, especially in that age bracket that they want to start taking things a little more seriously. And when they, you know, there's a struggle.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah, I think the women dating thing has been very interesting for me because that became a very quick focus point of mine because I realized that their troubles are very different from a lot of the male troubles, especially in that age bracket that they want to start taking things a little more seriously. And when they, you know, there's a struggle.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah, I think the women dating thing has been very interesting for me because that became a very quick focus point of mine because I realized that their troubles are very different from a lot of the male troubles, especially in that age bracket that they want to start taking things a little more seriously. And when they, you know, there's a struggle.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

So I always kind of say this reference for men, it's most of the time, it's about their struggle is getting to date one. And for women, their struggle is typically past date one or three. And they're trying, because they've already kind of chosen a guy that has, you know, they've

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

So I always kind of say this reference for men, it's most of the time, it's about their struggle is getting to date one. And for women, their struggle is typically past date one or three. And they're trying, because they've already kind of chosen a guy that has, you know, they've

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

So I always kind of say this reference for men, it's most of the time, it's about their struggle is getting to date one. And for women, their struggle is typically past date one or three. And they're trying, because they've already kind of chosen a guy that has, you know, they've

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

let's say they've cut 45 out of the 50 that have come at them, approached them, but the five that they've chosen, they start to get a little more invested in when they start to go out with them. So two specific struggles.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

let's say they've cut 45 out of the 50 that have come at them, approached them, but the five that they've chosen, they start to get a little more invested in when they start to go out with them. So two specific struggles.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

let's say they've cut 45 out of the 50 that have come at them, approached them, but the five that they've chosen, they start to get a little more invested in when they start to go out with them. So two specific struggles.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Number one is navigating after date one, which is like how to maintain, how to not get so attached to an outcome, how to stop telling stories about what's going on and what's not going on. Whereas I think guys have a little bit less of that as a problem.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Number one is navigating after date one, which is like how to maintain, how to not get so attached to an outcome, how to stop telling stories about what's going on and what's not going on. Whereas I think guys have a little bit less of that as a problem.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Number one is navigating after date one, which is like how to maintain, how to not get so attached to an outcome, how to stop telling stories about what's going on and what's not going on. Whereas I think guys have a little bit less of that as a problem.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And number two, what I see being the bigger issue is sometimes a lot of women can get in their own way in terms of being approachable or open for the kind of guy they want. So those are the two things. It's like being approachable and open to the kind of guy you want, kind of like low-key choosing.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And number two, what I see being the bigger issue is sometimes a lot of women can get in their own way in terms of being approachable or open for the kind of guy they want. So those are the two things. It's like being approachable and open to the kind of guy you want, kind of like low-key choosing.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And number two, what I see being the bigger issue is sometimes a lot of women can get in their own way in terms of being approachable or open for the kind of guy they want. So those are the two things. It's like being approachable and open to the kind of guy you want, kind of like low-key choosing.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And then the other part is kind of like keeping and maintaining early stage up and not driving yourself crazy.