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Ben Hart

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405 total appearances

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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Like the waffle brain of mine doesn't really get that, but I get why that maybe makes sense for you. But for any guy, like, I don't understand that at all. It makes no sense. And because of, right. We were talking about before, maybe guys have gotten a little more hesitant to approach girls for a variety of reasons, but you could argue, yes, guys have gotten a little, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

a little more risk adverse in that sense, but also on the flip side of that, and this is not me defending guys because I've met a ton of dweebs and bums and everything else. But on the flip side of that, I have to mention that, you know, when guys are on social, just like a lot of girls are, they see a lot of women, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

a little more risk adverse in that sense, but also on the flip side of that, and this is not me defending guys because I've met a ton of dweebs and bums and everything else. But on the flip side of that, I have to mention that, you know, when guys are on social, just like a lot of girls are, they see a lot of women, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

a little more risk adverse in that sense, but also on the flip side of that, and this is not me defending guys because I've met a ton of dweebs and bums and everything else. But on the flip side of that, I have to mention that, you know, when guys are on social, just like a lot of girls are, they see a lot of women, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

kind of talking shit about a lot of men basically saying like oh they're putting their hinge profiles up to saying this creep was in this gym looking at me and they get this reinforced into their system and they're like i ain't gonna do that fuck that i'm not putting i'm not getting from her to talk so there's there's there's this hesitancy with being a little too much where some girls would be like oh what are you doing that happens even just saying hi that happens

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

kind of talking shit about a lot of men basically saying like oh they're putting their hinge profiles up to saying this creep was in this gym looking at me and they get this reinforced into their system and they're like i ain't gonna do that fuck that i'm not putting i'm not getting from her to talk so there's there's there's this hesitancy with being a little too much where some girls would be like oh what are you doing that happens even just saying hi that happens

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

kind of talking shit about a lot of men basically saying like oh they're putting their hinge profiles up to saying this creep was in this gym looking at me and they get this reinforced into their system and they're like i ain't gonna do that fuck that i'm not putting i'm not getting from her to talk so there's there's there's this hesitancy with being a little too much where some girls would be like oh what are you doing that happens even just saying hi that happens

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Now, again, there's a line to be drawn where guys don't know how to come off and they can do some stupid shit. Of course they can. But there is a hesitancy also because of that moment, too, whereas they're fearful of some girl going on and talking shit about them or her entering the group chat. This guy was a creep. So there's the hesitancy there.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Now, again, there's a line to be drawn where guys don't know how to come off and they can do some stupid shit. Of course they can. But there is a hesitancy also because of that moment, too, whereas they're fearful of some girl going on and talking shit about them or her entering the group chat. This guy was a creep. So there's the hesitancy there.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Now, again, there's a line to be drawn where guys don't know how to come off and they can do some stupid shit. Of course they can. But there is a hesitancy also because of that moment, too, whereas they're fearful of some girl going on and talking shit about them or her entering the group chat. This guy was a creep. So there's the hesitancy there.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I think it depends, right? That would really depend on how long we're talking. Like if she's been seeing him for like four months or if she's been seeing him like two weeks.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I think it depends, right? That would really depend on how long we're talking. Like if she's been seeing him for like four months or if she's been seeing him like two weeks.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I think it depends, right? That would really depend on how long we're talking. Like if she's been seeing him for like four months or if she's been seeing him like two weeks.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Two months. So he starts to pull back. So he's pulling back, like not talking to her for a week. All right. And he was talking to her for more than that before. Yeah. So something changed.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Two months. So he starts to pull back. So he's pulling back, like not talking to her for a week. All right. And he was talking to her for more than that before. Yeah. So something changed.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Two months. So he starts to pull back. So he's pulling back, like not talking to her for a week. All right. And he was talking to her for more than that before. Yeah. So something changed.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Right. That just means he's losing interest. It means he's lost interest or he's losing interest or he found some... Most of the time, that's typically the case. When a guy starts pulling back and he had an energy at first and that energy changed, for whatever reason, it doesn't necessarily have to be her even.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Right. That just means he's losing interest. It means he's lost interest or he's losing interest or he found some... Most of the time, that's typically the case. When a guy starts pulling back and he had an energy at first and that energy changed, for whatever reason, it doesn't necessarily have to be her even.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Right. That just means he's losing interest. It means he's lost interest or he's losing interest or he found some... Most of the time, that's typically the case. When a guy starts pulling back and he had an energy at first and that energy changed, for whatever reason, it doesn't necessarily have to be her even.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

It could just be like, well, I just don't see myself getting down on my knee for this girl. And maybe...