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Ben Hart

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612 total appearances

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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

You're vetting him, too. And sometimes people forget that. They forget that once they choose, they think, oh, I kind of like this guy. But you're vetting him, too, along the way. You should be seeing his behaviors as they unfold, as he's doing for you.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

You're vetting him, too. And sometimes people forget that. They forget that once they choose, they think, oh, I kind of like this guy. But you're vetting him, too, along the way. You should be seeing his behaviors as they unfold, as he's doing for you.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

You're vetting him, too. And sometimes people forget that. They forget that once they choose, they think, oh, I kind of like this guy. But you're vetting him, too, along the way. You should be seeing his behaviors as they unfold, as he's doing for you.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah, and I think that's an important question to ask. And, you know, it's also an important question to ask is when you consider, like, okay, I want X. I want X type of guy. What does X type of guy want? And I'm going to tell you, not a lot of women ask that question. That I could definitely tell you. They don't ask the question of the kind of guy I want, what is he looking for?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah, and I think that's an important question to ask. And, you know, it's also an important question to ask is when you consider, like, okay, I want X. I want X type of guy. What does X type of guy want? And I'm going to tell you, not a lot of women ask that question. That I could definitely tell you. They don't ask the question of the kind of guy I want, what is he looking for?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah, and I think that's an important question to ask. And, you know, it's also an important question to ask is when you consider, like, okay, I want X. I want X type of guy. What does X type of guy want? And I'm going to tell you, not a lot of women ask that question. That I could definitely tell you. They don't ask the question of the kind of guy I want, what is he looking for?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And I think it's... Listen, I think that a lot of women that I speak to, a lot that are on my channel, it's difficult because when you're in a place where you've never really had to like understand men, you know, because a lot of men kind of have to understand the basics of women just to get to first date. Which is like, well, what's going to turn on? Why did I just turn her off?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And I think it's... Listen, I think that a lot of women that I speak to, a lot that are on my channel, it's difficult because when you're in a place where you've never really had to like understand men, you know, because a lot of men kind of have to understand the basics of women just to get to first date. Which is like, well, what's going to turn on? Why did I just turn her off?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

And I think it's... Listen, I think that a lot of women that I speak to, a lot that are on my channel, it's difficult because when you're in a place where you've never really had to like understand men, you know, because a lot of men kind of have to understand the basics of women just to get to first date. Which is like, well, what's going to turn on? Why did I just turn her off?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Like, why did she turn me down there? Like, what was the deal? There's a part of them that have to be that. And when you've never really had to understand men, when you choose the guy, all of a sudden you have to understand their behaviors a little bit more and make some good decisions. And sometimes that can be difficult for people. So I try to make it fun.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Like, why did she turn me down there? Like, what was the deal? There's a part of them that have to be that. And when you've never really had to understand men, when you choose the guy, all of a sudden you have to understand their behaviors a little bit more and make some good decisions. And sometimes that can be difficult for people. So I try to make it fun.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Like, why did she turn me down there? Like, what was the deal? There's a part of them that have to be that. And when you've never really had to understand men, when you choose the guy, all of a sudden you have to understand their behaviors a little bit more and make some good decisions. And sometimes that can be difficult for people. So I try to make it fun.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

But my method is essentially it's all about, you know, I'm very big on accountability. So I do put the mirror up to a lot of people. And I'm not a big back rubber person. And not to say that I couldn't be, but on my one-on-ones, I definitely am. I'm understanding and empathetic. But in general, you kind of have to look in the mirror.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

But my method is essentially it's all about, you know, I'm very big on accountability. So I do put the mirror up to a lot of people. And I'm not a big back rubber person. And not to say that I couldn't be, but on my one-on-ones, I definitely am. I'm understanding and empathetic. But in general, you kind of have to look in the mirror.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

But my method is essentially it's all about, you know, I'm very big on accountability. So I do put the mirror up to a lot of people. And I'm not a big back rubber person. And not to say that I couldn't be, but on my one-on-ones, I definitely am. I'm understanding and empathetic. But in general, you kind of have to look in the mirror.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

If you keep attracting F-boy, I mean, there's a common denominator here. And you can't just be thinking about it's everybody else's problem. And I think that's very empowering. And I think that that can kind of get... the message can get a little diluted if you're not considering it actually an empowering thing that you actually have more control than you think.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

If you keep attracting F-boy, I mean, there's a common denominator here. And you can't just be thinking about it's everybody else's problem. And I think that's very empowering. And I think that that can kind of get... the message can get a little diluted if you're not considering it actually an empowering thing that you actually have more control than you think.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

If you keep attracting F-boy, I mean, there's a common denominator here. And you can't just be thinking about it's everybody else's problem. And I think that's very empowering. And I think that that can kind of get... the message can get a little diluted if you're not considering it actually an empowering thing that you actually have more control than you think.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Totally. And like, you know, I don't my point is I also don't want to see people get caught up in this like victimhood of like, you know, for example, there's plenty of them. But like I give you one like, you know, there's OK, a guy was I was in a situationship with a guy for six months. I don't know what to do. I'm like, why would you be in a situation for six months?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Totally. And like, you know, I don't my point is I also don't want to see people get caught up in this like victimhood of like, you know, for example, there's plenty of them. But like I give you one like, you know, there's OK, a guy was I was in a situationship with a guy for six months. I don't know what to do. I'm like, why would you be in a situation for six months?