Ben Hart

Totally. And like, you know, I don't my point is I also don't want to see people get caught up in this like victimhood of like, you know, for example, there's plenty of them. But like I give you one like, you know, there's OK, a guy was I was in a situationship with a guy for six months. I don't know what to do. I'm like, why would you be in a situation for six months?

You know, like that right there is a basic level of like framework of accountability. Like you don't do six month situationships with a dude when you're looking for commitment as a whole doesn't work. The fact that you actually had control whether this goes to a situationship or not. It's not just on the man because he led you down a situationship. You kind of stayed.

You know, like that right there is a basic level of like framework of accountability. Like you don't do six month situationships with a dude when you're looking for commitment as a whole doesn't work. The fact that you actually had control whether this goes to a situationship or not. It's not just on the man because he led you down a situationship. You kind of stayed.

You know, like that right there is a basic level of like framework of accountability. Like you don't do six month situationships with a dude when you're looking for commitment as a whole doesn't work. The fact that you actually had control whether this goes to a situationship or not. It's not just on the man because he led you down a situationship. You kind of stayed.

A situationship is basically anything besides relationship. And if we're getting very general about that, that's a very general framework, right? Like it's anything besides relationship. You know, you hang out a lot, no commitment. You do friendly stuff together. It's, you know, maybe you sleep together or whatever. But there's all these other things where there's no commitment.

A situationship is basically anything besides relationship. And if we're getting very general about that, that's a very general framework, right? Like it's anything besides relationship. You know, you hang out a lot, no commitment. You do friendly stuff together. It's, you know, maybe you sleep together or whatever. But there's all these other things where there's no commitment.

A situationship is basically anything besides relationship. And if we're getting very general about that, that's a very general framework, right? Like it's anything besides relationship. You know, you hang out a lot, no commitment. You do friendly stuff together. It's, you know, maybe you sleep together or whatever. But there's all these other things where there's no commitment.

And that's what most people would call it's a situationship, kind of.

And that's what most people would call it's a situationship, kind of.

And that's what most people would call it's a situationship, kind of.

Correct. Not having that conversation. See, like if you're somebody that cares about it, right? Like if you're somebody who says, yeah, you know, for example, let's say most women that call in, yes, I am looking for, you know, I would like a commitment that leads to marriage one day and I would like to have a family. Let's just give a classic example.

Correct. Not having that conversation. See, like if you're somebody that cares about it, right? Like if you're somebody who says, yeah, you know, for example, let's say most women that call in, yes, I am looking for, you know, I would like a commitment that leads to marriage one day and I would like to have a family. Let's just give a classic example.

Correct. Not having that conversation. See, like if you're somebody that cares about it, right? Like if you're somebody who says, yeah, you know, for example, let's say most women that call in, yes, I am looking for, you know, I would like a commitment that leads to marriage one day and I would like to have a family. Let's just give a classic example.

Okay, there's an identity that happens, right? You have, this is the way I like to think about it, the way I always talk about it and teach it is there's outcome. And then there's, who do I need to become to get outcome? And just like anything else, right? Like if you want to get into Harvard, you got to become Harvard student first before you get into Harvard.

Okay, there's an identity that happens, right? You have, this is the way I like to think about it, the way I always talk about it and teach it is there's outcome. And then there's, who do I need to become to get outcome? And just like anything else, right? Like if you want to get into Harvard, you got to become Harvard student first before you get into Harvard.

Okay, there's an identity that happens, right? You have, this is the way I like to think about it, the way I always talk about it and teach it is there's outcome. And then there's, who do I need to become to get outcome? And just like anything else, right? Like if you want to get into Harvard, you got to become Harvard student first before you get into Harvard.

You can't say, once I get into Harvard, then I'll change. No, it's you have to say, okay, if I want to be that, how would somebody like that carry herself? How would she make decisions? What would she put up with? What would she not put up with?

You can't say, once I get into Harvard, then I'll change. No, it's you have to say, okay, if I want to be that, how would somebody like that carry herself? How would she make decisions? What would she put up with? What would she not put up with?

You can't say, once I get into Harvard, then I'll change. No, it's you have to say, okay, if I want to be that, how would somebody like that carry herself? How would she make decisions? What would she put up with? What would she not put up with?

And I'm going to tell you, a lot of people that are in that framework of commitment or one would call maybe wife or a husband wouldn't put up with certain behaviors that are not conducive for long-term success inside a relationship. And that means no long-term situationships. You don't need to do all this stuff. And they would communicate thoroughly.