Ben Hart

And that kind of starts to build a viable course of momentum for,

And that kind of starts to build a viable course of momentum for,

for you and the momentum starts to actually build confidence but you kind of you don't want to overwhelm people by being like you got to go in here and look at them and smile at them and stand next to them they're gonna be like i would never do that but just you know just get off your couch number one get outside and just take a walk number two when you see a guy maybe just stand next to him for a second and pretend you're number three like these small bits of progress tend to work right and i've worked with women who've been like i'm just really afraid to like

for you and the momentum starts to actually build confidence but you kind of you don't want to overwhelm people by being like you got to go in here and look at them and smile at them and stand next to them they're gonna be like i would never do that but just you know just get off your couch number one get outside and just take a walk number two when you see a guy maybe just stand next to him for a second and pretend you're number three like these small bits of progress tend to work right and i've worked with women who've been like i'm just really afraid to like

for you and the momentum starts to actually build confidence but you kind of you don't want to overwhelm people by being like you got to go in here and look at them and smile at them and stand next to them they're gonna be like i would never do that but just you know just get off your couch number one get outside and just take a walk number two when you see a guy maybe just stand next to him for a second and pretend you're number three like these small bits of progress tend to work right and i've worked with women who've been like i'm just really afraid to like

you know i don't want to go out alone or with a friend and actually focus on this i said okay well you don't have to you know you could just you do what you you do what you want to do but there's a beautiful thing that many women have said you know what benny i can't believe it actually i just went to the bar and the story about going to like a restaurant let's just say for example there's a story like i don't want to go to a restaurant and be that girl i was like no no you're just going to a restaurant to have a dish or to grab a

you know i don't want to go out alone or with a friend and actually focus on this i said okay well you don't have to you know you could just you do what you you do what you want to do but there's a beautiful thing that many women have said you know what benny i can't believe it actually i just went to the bar and the story about going to like a restaurant let's just say for example there's a story like i don't want to go to a restaurant and be that girl i was like no no you're just going to a restaurant to have a dish or to grab a

you know i don't want to go out alone or with a friend and actually focus on this i said okay well you don't have to you know you could just you do what you you do what you want to do but there's a beautiful thing that many women have said you know what benny i can't believe it actually i just went to the bar and the story about going to like a restaurant let's just say for example there's a story like i don't want to go to a restaurant and be that girl i was like no no you're just going to a restaurant to have a dish or to grab a

You're not going for a specific, you're just placing yourself. You're not even doing anything. I don't want you to do anything. Just go. The smallest bit. And then all of a sudden, things just start happening because they just have one bit of progress. And then, by the way, not even the fact that a guy comes up to you. A guy can just look at you.

You're not going for a specific, you're just placing yourself. You're not even doing anything. I don't want you to do anything. Just go. The smallest bit. And then all of a sudden, things just start happening because they just have one bit of progress. And then, by the way, not even the fact that a guy comes up to you. A guy can just look at you.

You're not going for a specific, you're just placing yourself. You're not even doing anything. I don't want you to do anything. Just go. The smallest bit. And then all of a sudden, things just start happening because they just have one bit of progress. And then, by the way, not even the fact that a guy comes up to you. A guy can just look at you.

And all of a sudden, a woman who has been out of the dating scene for like 20 years, I've worked with plenty of them, but they've had this moment where it's like, I don't know how to date. It's so new. It's so different.

And all of a sudden, a woman who has been out of the dating scene for like 20 years, I've worked with plenty of them, but they've had this moment where it's like, I don't know how to date. It's so new. It's so different.

And all of a sudden, a woman who has been out of the dating scene for like 20 years, I've worked with plenty of them, but they've had this moment where it's like, I don't know how to date. It's so new. It's so different.

Just putting yourself in a position where you dress up nice, you go out, you just have an hour to yourself out and you get one look from a guy and all of a sudden you're like, wow, you know, he didn't do anything, but I kind of like the look. And then you go back next time and the guy smiled at me and he was talking to me, but he didn't ask my number, but I liked it. It was really good.

Just putting yourself in a position where you dress up nice, you go out, you just have an hour to yourself out and you get one look from a guy and all of a sudden you're like, wow, you know, he didn't do anything, but I kind of like the look. And then you go back next time and the guy smiled at me and he was talking to me, but he didn't ask my number, but I liked it. It was really good.

Just putting yourself in a position where you dress up nice, you go out, you just have an hour to yourself out and you get one look from a guy and all of a sudden you're like, wow, you know, he didn't do anything, but I kind of like the look. And then you go back next time and the guy smiled at me and he was talking to me, but he didn't ask my number, but I liked it. It was really good.

Those are the momentum pieces. And I just find that when you overwhelm the story with all the expectations you have, you tend to fall short of all of them. And it's really important to detach from an outcome, but just start getting engulfed in embracing the process of putting yourself in position.

Those are the momentum pieces. And I just find that when you overwhelm the story with all the expectations you have, you tend to fall short of all of them. And it's really important to detach from an outcome, but just start getting engulfed in embracing the process of putting yourself in position.

Those are the momentum pieces. And I just find that when you overwhelm the story with all the expectations you have, you tend to fall short of all of them. And it's really important to detach from an outcome, but just start getting engulfed in embracing the process of putting yourself in position.