Benedikt Oehmen
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first heard Dec 2024
last heard May 2025
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a lot more safe in his own abilities and okay not having a normal nine to five job but being my own boss and having my own company and and living a little bit outside my comfort zone and pushing against it steadily so yeah i'll forever be grateful for that and it's it led me to where i am today and it's a really exciting space so yeah
So to me, it comes down to your point of view and how you choose to engage with that event in your life. That event being your parting ways with your former employer, either by your own choice or you're being forced to because you have been laid off or the company is no more. And we can choose to look at that and say, oh my God, this is the worst thing that ever happened to me.
What am I going to do now? This is the most scary thing that ever happened to me in my life. I'm being thrown out of my comfort zone. I had this nice little place where I was good at what I was doing and it was comfortable and I made money and that allowed me to survive and live my life. And that's when people, if you look at it like that, then yes, it's very scary.
But you can also choose to look at this energy in your body that you feel this being stirred as, oh, there's energy in my body. I'm kingly all over. I'm excited for what lies ahead. So instead of looking at what you lost, it's, oh, wow. So I'm not bound to this company anymore. What other opportunities are there for me? What is it actually that I'm passionate about? What is it that fulfills me?
And is there maybe a better fit for me out there than what I have been doing previously? And if you look at it from that perspective, then change is exciting because now you enter this world of opportunity and the five stages of grief, you get through them a lot more quickly and rapidly. than when you look at it from the other side of being scarce and having that anxiety.
And if you have that for the first time, yes, it's completely normal to be scared because you lose your safety net. And that will always be scary, especially if you have to provide for your family and for your children. The more you get exposed to it, right, the more you are... Getting used to nothing in this world is 100% safe. Nothing is being granted or forever.
Then you get into the practice of building that resilience and asking yourself, Hey, what if tomorrow my workplace changes or my position at work or my responsibilities or I don't have a job anymore? What can I do right now to prepare myself for that eventuality and the change that is very likely to come in the future at some point?
and if you look at it like that then you can prepare your yourself each day a little bit with stuff that makes sense for you in the future and that may start with looking at what am i actually passionate about what is it that i want to do with my life and how does it overlap with stuff i can get paid for and then you can start building accreditation and you can do research and you can develop yourself into that
direction that when the moment comes and you're all and you're suddenly thrown out you have a system in place you're already on the road to something new just like okay cool that was great i'm very thankful for the experiences i'm taking all the good things i can from it that helped me learn and grow and become the person that i am today and with that set of skills and experiences let's move forward to the next thing
So the big three is really something I discovered during my last stages at Blizzard and then the year after when I was getting my coaching certifications and I was writing the book. And they're all about being kind, present and open. And for me, it's a framework that when we just stick to those three simple things, everything else falls into place.
So being kind to me is all about self-acceptance, embracing the good things in our life and not looking at what we think we are missing. So let's... What we talked about previously is this point of view, right? It helps shape this point of view to a place where we have possibility instead of restrictions. And then being present is all about enabling that self-motivated and self-driven behavior.
Because we look at where are we right now? Where is it actually that I want to go in the future? What are the challenges in between? And who do I have to become to, as a consequence of being that person, I will overcome these challenges in my way. And that's then where being open comes in.
And we put systems and habits into place to become that person, our future selves that will overcome all these challenges that we currently face one step at a time. And the beautiful thing here is it's a different road for everybody, but it's always the same framework.
And for me, I saw it really work in my work with my former team and colleagues, being kind to them and myself saying, hey, this is a difficult position we are finding ourselves in. It's okay to take time to process it. Once you're in a good position to talk about it, let's be present and see where you are right now, where do you want to go and what can we do right now to help you get you there?
And then in the being open part, we put specific trainings and certifications and actions into place that you can do little by little to build towards that goal. And it's not that overwhelming anymore. And you'll find a new job simply as a consequence of putting that behavior into place. So that is what the big three are all about and how they work for me in a professional life.
It's also then how I build my business. Hey, being kind to myself, it's the first time creating a business. I'm going to make a lot of mistakes and that is okay. Mistakes are just mistakes. learning in disguise in the end. So looking forward to making them because I will learn a lot from them.
And then looking at if I want to be at that space and have a successful company for myself and a successful business, What does that look like and what are the steps that will get me there? And right here, right now, what are the first steps I can start taking?
And then being open to putting systems into place for myself to do a little bit every day to become that person who then has that successful business. Talking about the book that how I tested my thesis saying, hey, I've never written a book before. I always wanted to, but it was always too scary. I just discovered the big three. Let's try it with this book.
And what happened is I reframed I want to write a book into I want to become an author. And an author is just somebody who writes a little bit every day. So I started with five minutes. Five minutes became 10, 15, two hours, three hours a day. And after three months, the book was done. The first proper draft was done. And it was like realizing, wow, it really works.
Like I broke down this super demanding and challenging and threatening goal. Like it was still there, the end goal of writing a book. But since I reframed it to I'm becoming an author now and I'm doing a little bit every day, it just accumulated with time and developed as a consequence. And there I saw success.
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