Benjamin Felix
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first heard Apr 2026
last heard 10 Sep
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But back to how this relates to marriage.
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So we've got these tightwads and we've got these spendthrifts.
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The evidence here gets quite interesting.
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Tightwads and spendthrifts are more likely to marry each other
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than to marry a tightwad or another spendthrift.
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So if you're a tightwad, you're more likely to marry a spendthrift is what their research showed, at least in the sample that they had studied there.
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So it's kind of like we hear opposites attract, but I think the findings may be a little bit counterintuitive when you consider that in reality, people do tend to find spouses who share some characteristics, which without seeing the research, you might expect that to include spending tendencies, but
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The research shows the opposite, which I guess is why it was an interesting finding.
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They do suggest a couple of reasons for the disconnect or for why opposites attract.
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People tend to have poor introspective awareness of what they'll actually find attractive when encountering real potential partners.
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And when tightwads and spendthrifts encounter similar behaviors to their own in others, they
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It reminds them of that negative behavior quality in themselves.
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And so the result is what the authors describe as fatal fiscal attractions, where someone who doesn't share your same shortcomings from a spending perspective is initially exciting and appealing to you for that reason.
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But then the reason that this is important is that what the study then goes on to show is that that excitement is transitory.
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And then later on, tightwads and spendthrifts that marry one another tend to experience more frequent conflicts over money and diminished marital well-being.
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And the more they differ on the scale, so the more extreme you are on one end or the other, the more likely you are to have marital conflict.
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They find that that remains true even when debt and savings in the household are controlled for.
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That doesn't mean that two people who have different spending profiles will be dissatisfied with their marriage.
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It also doesn't mean that you should marry someone that's going to mirror your own financial behavior.
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But I think it is useful to have that framework for better understanding yourself and your spouse.
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