Beverly Gooden

We often have a hard time believing that someone we hold in high esteem could be abusive, that the same hands that create art can also create terror. That's really hard to sit with. And I empathize with people who are working through that because I've been there.

We often have a hard time believing that someone we hold in high esteem could be abusive, that the same hands that create art can also create terror. That's really hard to sit with. And I empathize with people who are working through that because I've been there.

And I think a healthier way to deal with that hurt and confusion is to accept that someone can be good to you and still hurt someone else.

And I think a healthier way to deal with that hurt and confusion is to accept that someone can be good to you and still hurt someone else.

And I think a healthier way to deal with that hurt and confusion is to accept that someone can be good to you and still hurt someone else.

And it's OK to feel shocked and disappointed or even conflicted. I think that's OK. But for me, it helps to remove the language of good and bad when discussing people holistically and directly address the action. You are a person who made choices. And your choices were violent. And that violence has consequences. You being good or bad is irrelevant to me. I'm okay with duality.

And it's OK to feel shocked and disappointed or even conflicted. I think that's OK. But for me, it helps to remove the language of good and bad when discussing people holistically and directly address the action. You are a person who made choices. And your choices were violent. And that violence has consequences. You being good or bad is irrelevant to me. I'm okay with duality.

And it's OK to feel shocked and disappointed or even conflicted. I think that's OK. But for me, it helps to remove the language of good and bad when discussing people holistically and directly address the action. You are a person who made choices. And your choices were violent. And that violence has consequences. You being good or bad is irrelevant to me. I'm okay with duality.

I'm not okay with abuse. And it's the abuse that needs to be named and confronted.

I'm not okay with abuse. And it's the abuse that needs to be named and confronted.

I'm not okay with abuse. And it's the abuse that needs to be named and confronted.